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Children's NIGHT TERRORS

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mini2z

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I was on a night terrors BB and someone posted about a section on night terrors in the book(CPL) and a possible link to a past life memory. Which Chapter? I read up on making a soothing tape for her to fall asleep with. She is afraid to fall alseep. She screams and runs around during her terrors and babbles. I wish she were able to talk better and tell me what is wrong and experiencing. I just wonder if anyone has any other advise.

My son who is five has told me that he chose me as his mom and my husband was standing there saying I coached him on that. Which I didn't. I believe in past lives and believe my son has had some memories. Maybe my daughter is too.

mini2z
 
The chapter in Children's Past Lives is Dreaming Up the Past (Chapter 13 if my memory serves me).

Unfortunately there's not a lot we can say directly about night terrors except to speculate on the past life source. Because children don't say much during the episodes or remember much after, there's not a lot to go on. It sure does make sense, though. If you read the whole book you'll get a feel for how these memories affect children in general. That might give you some clues or ideas how you can help your daughter.

Good luck,

Steve


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Thanks Steve.

I have read the whole book but it was a while ago. I will read it over again exspecially chapter 13. My daughter is still young to understand what she is saying while she is awake let alone during these episodes.

Thanks again
Kristin
 
HI:

I don't know if my edxperience can help you at all. My son had night terrors for several years after be;ing the one to discover his Grandmother when she had had a stroke to the brainstem. He was not quite three, and like your girl, he was not too coherent for a while. When he finally was able to communicate his experience to me he begged me not to let the lights take him, like they did Nanny.
He had seen lights floating around the room when he found his grandmother and he assumed when he saw them again, they were going to take HIM away like he assumed they had done to his Nanny.

His night terrors were evidence of the extremes of terror. He would start to scream about 15 minutes after he had been tucked in. I could enter the room and turn on the light, speek to him, shake him lightly, wash his face with cold water, remove him to another, brightly lit room: nothing had any impact on his terror whatsoever. sometimes he was so scared he sould soil himself.
The doctor we had suggested a smack on the behind to shock him out of it (didn't work), but we found that if we just held him and waited he would eventually settle.
As he got older and had told us of what he was actually scared the explanation that this was probably the souls of Nanny's loved ones coming for her, seemed to give him comfort, but he still wanted to know why they were still coming to see him. We told him he probably had been so scared that these people wanted to reassure him, and he was finally happy with that and settled. He still preferred to sleep with absolutely no light showing in his room.

As reassurance to you he did get over the terrors. but perhaps, your girl could have something like that , souls of people she used to know coming to visit.

Hope this may be of some help, someone with the same kind of problem.
SHAY
 
Talk to them, even young kids understand a lot more than they can articulate. Talk to them in their sleep, that is where the terror is happening. Waking them only temporarily stops the process (until next time). Tell them they can be safe and you are there to protect them. And to tell the scary things to go away. We all hear in our sleep, it all goes in, gentle and calm reassurance that they can tell the scary things to go away. They are safe in a new body and a new home. Don’t tell them it is “O.K.” ’cause they know it isn’t. Give them tools to deal with their terrors. Don’t laugh.
 
Thanks Shay & Kurt
I will try to help her through the terrors. I re-read the chapter on the dreams and it helped a little.

mini2z
 
Mini2z,

Please come back and let us know what happens--what you try and what works or doesn't work. I think dialogues and sharing like this are necessary if we're ever going to understand night terros.

Steve


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Night Terrors are subsiding. I went to my dd and told her she was safe and in a different place. After a couple of nights she seemed to settle right down after hearing that she was safe. When I tried to console her before by saying it's okay she would push me away. Thank you everyone for your advise. She has only had one night in six that she had any terrors. Much improved over the several times a night, every night.

Now if I could only stop the sleepwalking.

I'll keep you posted on her progress. An interesting note, my friend wondered if she'll remember her past lives? She wondered this because I was helping her at a young age.

Kristin
 
I spoke too soon. Last night I asked my friend to do Reiki on my dd while she was sleeping. My dd gave her permission right away. Well this was at 10pm. At 11:30 she had night terror after terror.

I spoke to my girlfried today and she told me the first thing that my dd showed her was:
Total terror and pain. dd's head was being crushed somehow. She couldn't make out anything else around her at this past life. Next she saw something that was "weird" how my friend described it. My dd was showing her this white like sphere. My friend had Never encountred anything like this while she's done reiki.
Next my daughter brought her to a beautiful place. There were mountains and everything was crystal clear. She estimated that it had to have been hundreds of years ago. She saw my daughter at about age five or six. She was walking in tall grass with her mother. ME. Then all of a sudden a man on a horse grabbed my daughter and we were both screaming and separated. Then the connection ended.

Then she started having the terrors. Like before I told her she was safe and in a different place. She settled right down but the continued all night.

Kristin
 
My friend did the reiki on my daughter again and asked her angels or spirits to watch over her and protect her to help her with her sleeping. That night my daughter only woke up once. It was at the same time I had just finished having this dream like I was completely connected to my daughter. There was also this very handsome man with light hair who made me feel peace. I went to my daughter and she just wanted to know I was there, hugged my and laid right back down and was sleeping again. My friend described this man to me before I had a chance to tell her my dream. I asked her to tell me more about the past life she saw where my daughter & I were mother and daughter. She said it was definately both of our energy and it was a time when the world was clean and the air was clear.

The strange thing about the other night is I don't remember my dreams. I haven't for a long time. I just felt so connected to my daughter.

Last night my daughter woke two times. Once I was out still with friends. My husband went to my daughter and she stood up kissed him and went right back to sleep. I got home late and fell asleep. I woke up and she was crying just a little. I went to her and she did the same thing to me. My husband and I talked this morning and I thought it was her way of making sure we were still here. Maybe she is working through her past lives and knows she is safe her. Only time will tell.

Kristin
 
Hi:
It's me again, I foung with both of my boys that they were at their most upset and frenetic when they were going through change, like just before they started walking, or ust before some other land mark in their developement. Perhaps this i;s what you are seeing in your daughter, the increased terrors, the sleepwalking, the added need for reassurance. Maybe she is just working up the energy for the change she is trying to make, like resolving the problems with the previous life. My youngest, who went through the night terrors was a marathon sleewwalker, and still does on occasion. I think it is a symptom of unrest, and will lessen when your baby and my son feel less apprehensive about the future.
I think that the Reiki may have served as a catalyst, and thereby caused the upsets, but I don't think its a bad thing, if it expedites her growth.

Good Luck, I wish that I had had the access to Reiki when my son had his problems. Of course, now there is a reiki professional nearby, but as usual to late to help me. I' glad that it's helping your daughter, and I wish the best for you both.

SHAY
 
I as a child experienced night terror after night terror, and drove my parents crazy I am sure. My parents raised me in a religious environment and I have always beleived in a higher power. Since my parents couldn't resolve my night terror problem I had to find my own solution. Right before I would close my eyes I would talk to HIM and would have this conversation where I would plead -would HE protect me from the nightmares and sweating and sceaming throughout the night!? Without fail if I Prayed I wouldn't experience the terrors. If I forgot to pray, I almost always experienced the terrors. If I would awake with the terrors, I would resume my prayers, finally sleep and sleep peacefully the rest of the night. I am 42 now and recalling that time in my life is a nightmare! I vividly remember the recurring dream that would always incite the terrors. Just wondering if my solution would help any of you out there whose children are having these problems.
 
As a child, I had a reoccurring night terror. This night terror lasted until the birth of my first son (I was 21 years old at the time). To this day, I still have night terrors but not like I did when I was younger. I am not quite sure why they have almost stopped but I would figure it is because I like who I am and where I am in life. I am quite happy that they have stopped.
 
My Daughter is suffering - help!

My daughter is 3 and is suffering night fears and violent nightmares. We are unable to sleep through the night and have tried all the usual things: night lights, special cuddly blankets, toys, dreamcatchers, a new bed, even feng shui. Nothing has helped reduce the violent dreams of death and dying. She dreams of soldiers, torture, blood and death, and the images, as she describes them are troubling to an adult,and I can only imagine how frightening they must be to "experience" in dreams. I desperately need to find a way to help her find peace, as the entire family is suffering from the sleep deprivation. Any suggestions?
 
The poor thing! A lot of people will disagree with me, but I think that if you let her sleep with you (even on the floor in your room) for as long as she needs to, she will eventually realize subconsiously---while she is dreaming--- that she is really safe at home with you.

If you totally object to the idea of sharing your sleeping space, then you can try to teach her lucide dreaming. She's very young, but she may be able to grasp the idea that she can control her dreams or even teach herself how to wake up from them. I trained myself to say a prayer when I am in the middle of a very bad dream, which triggers me to wake up. If you can give her a key... something to think about during these bad dreams, like a favorite pet or something, it might help her realize she is dreaming.



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Moonbeam
 
Moonbeam: I would like to know more about your idea regarding a trigger. (Although she has NO trouble waking up!) The trouble is in relaxing and letting go of the the fear and turmoil to be able to go back to sleep. She quantifies her fear as a fear of the dark. Although light does not dispel her disquiet. I think you are on to something by giving her tools to empower her "against" her fear/dreams.
 
Hi New,

Each night before she goes to bed, have her think about something that makes her happy or something that makes her feel safe... something that is powerful, too, because I don't think flowers or babydolls will work! It could be a favorite dog, character, or religious icon like Jesus.

Then, tell her when she is having a bad dream, to ask the dog/Jesus/whatever to help her. With any luck, the power of suggestion before she goes to sleep will help her to actually start learning to control her dreams. That's how people learn to enjoy lucid dreaming; you tell yourself what you want to dream of or you meditate on something before you fall asleep. Pretty soon, you learn to do all kinds of fun things in your dreams!

If your daughter feels empowered by something and can learn to call on it when she is in the dream state, she will have more control over her night terrors.

Good luck, and let me know how it goes!

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Be Blessed

Moonbeam
 
Welcome,

Have you read Carol's book, Children's Past Lives? In it, she documents many cases where children had phobias or unnatural fears, and once they regressed, they saw the reason for their fear, and it subsided.
If my child were having these dreams, I would regress him or her. At the very least, simply comfort her and let her know that she is *safe now*, that the war is past and is *not* going on now.
I would agree with Moonbeam that you should take her in with you or stay by her while she is going thru this. The single most important thing is to make her know that she is safe.

Good thoughts to you,
DJ
 
I have experienced with my son, who is now 6, what you are going through. I wanted to email you, but your email address wasn't listed so that we can can chat about our ideas. If you have AOL we could IM each other. I have been through so much with my son, nothing suprises much anymore. Please feel free to talk to me anytime. If you want to read the last post about about him it is the one below yours titled "sons speaking another language" something like that. Anyways, hope to hera from you soon.
Mona
 
Hi Mona!
Yes, I definitely do try insure that my daughter feels secure. I have tried to help her use the advice given above (thanks to all who responded!), and last night was a little more restful.
Although, I do not have her in my room (I have 2 other children), I do stay in her room with her, until she falls asleep again, and I promise to check in on her, so that she will feel safe. I would be happy to hear about your experiences, and what worked for you and your son.
Just to complicate things my infant daughter (shares a room with the 3 year old) has begun to wake at night around 2 am. I am convinced she is "talking" to someone, as she is very animated, smiles and coos, and seems to be looking at some particular point. As she is 9 months old, she is able to recognize people, communicate, and hold a gaze, so this behaviour is odd. She frequently looks over my shoulder and does the same type of thing. Is it possible that there is more going on in my home than just the 3 year olds' bad dreams??
 
I haven't posted here in a while, but suggest that you don't dismiss your 9 month old's babbling and fixed gaze over the shoulder.. Our now 13 yr old did that to me, and yes, at the time it gave me "the willies" because he and I were alone in the house. Now I honestly believe something - or someone - was there.

Search around, perhaps you have someone in your area who is familiar with paranormal stuff, and can help. Just don't "dismiss" it too quickly.
 
Hi New,

My son, who is now 20 months, does the same thing. When he was only a few months old he would look in a certain direction and smile and stare and laugh. Now he sits by himself and holds a book and it really looks as if someone is reading to him. It gives me the willies too! I really think it's my husband's grandmother. Even before my son was born we had the feeling that his grandmother was watching over him. I feel her presence(even right now actually) regularly and know that she is watching out for my son. One time, I was putting up curtains and my son wanted my attention. I told him to be patient and after he started crying a ceramic angel fell off of my dresser and one of the wings broke off. I then heard my husband's grandmother say "Take care of your son!" She keeps me in line LOL! I never got to meet her because she died two months before I met my husband. I really wish I could have, but I feel like I already know her. Maybe your 9 month old is seeing a guardian angel or spirit guide. Sorry this was so long.

Good luck and Peace,

Shariad
 
I'm not sure who could be catching the baby's attention, but so far, it seems benign. Perhaps the "guardian" could help the 3 year old . . . Do you suppose they are "transferable"??
The three year old started to describe her own heart transplant yesterday (which she has not had in this lifetime!) She told me that her heart was broken, and the doctors took it out and gave her a new heart. The mommy and daddy of the heart she received were in heaven. She couldn't define when it happened, but she was insistent that the owners of the heart were dead and in heaven. I don't know how to explain the difference between this life and other ideas or memories that she has, to help her distinguish between now and the past. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
P.S. While on vacation last week, my daughter selected a crucifix as her souvenir, and the nightmares are less frequent. Now, her "stories" are being told during waking hours.
 
Dear New:

I read about your three year old daughter and her night terrors. It certainly could be indicative of a past life. The simple regression method utilized in Carol Bowman's book "Children's Past Lives" could help get to the root of the problem, and it's one you can do yourself.

I liked the idea someone else had mentioned about allowing your child to sleep in your room on the floor (or even with you in your bed.) A child's sense of security should outweigh cultural norms of having to sleep by oneself. You may also want to consider a competent and open minded psychologist or psychiatrist to help you. your situation sounds too serious to ignore, and you need your rest as well as your daughter. if it is past life memories , a professional may be able to help your daughter deal with them. In the meantime,try letting your child know that these scenes from her nightmares are from another life, and that she was in a different body. let her know she is safe now and in a new body that will not come to similar harm. Offer her the chance to describe what she sees - perhaps you can show her in a history book that the scene is truly from a war or battle in the past and not part of her present life.

Regards,
Christine
 
Thank-you for your sound and caring advice. I have become a little more comfortable with my daughter's "stories" and we have had some good chats lately, while she is awake, and we talk about her current safety and security. Her latest was description of a heart transplant, where the donor was dead. She described how doctors "unzipped" her chest and took her broken heart out, replacing it with a new one, from someone who had died and gone to heaven. Then they "zipped" her back up, and she was better. I will be reading more to learn how to be most supportive to her, as she is truly a gift. Your advice and that of others here has been calming and helped our family become a little more comfortable with the situation. Thank-you!
 
Hi New, it's nice to meet you. I'm actually going up to TO in 11 days to visit for a week. I can't wait! I'm from the Maratimes and it's REALLY nice to meet another Canadian on board. Take Care and enjoy those commercials. Take Care, -rinkrat.

ps: good luck with your daughter.
 
Hey-
i know how your daugther feels. when i was about 5 yrs. old i started haveing these awful dreams about these cloaked men dressed all in black that would beat me and i think now that one even tried to rape me and sometimes try to kill me. they were really really bad dreams. i had to sleep with lights on, a blanket,ect. this went on at least 4 times a week for about 3 yrs.my mom thought i was crazy(cuz i had just gotten over my fear of trains...long story). Ok all i can say is tell her they cant hurt her and that it'll be ok....the good thing is that eventually she probley wount have these dreams anymore,cuz i dont.
 
Hi New,
Ive just read your letter and I wanted to say that I had similar problems with my youngest daughter who had past life memories. She too had bad dreams and one way in which I found that I could help her was by teaching her the technique in which you can take the frightening object in the dream(she used to dream of being chased by cheetas) and to visualise the thing, put it in a strong box in your mind and then wrap the box with really strong binding tape round and round until nothing of the box could be seen in your mind and then to mentally throw the box away as far as possible in your minds eye. This technique took a little while for her to be able to do competently but it did make a considerable difference to her as she felt as though she was in control of the images in her mind which gave her a sense of power and stopped her from being so very scared.
I agree that you do need to stay with her and to reassure her that you will come back say every 10 or 15 minutes or whatever you feel will be needed to give her that reassurance. It is also vitally important to explain to her that these memories do actually come from another life time.. above all let her know that you believe her and that you are there for her. I know it is totally exhausting...but it does get better. My daughter is now 7 and it is like having a new person in the home!!!!
with peace and blessings to you
english rose
 
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