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Children's NIGHT TERRORS

Hi Rae,

I've just read this entire thread and your experience with your son is very interesting. How you intereact with him and work to get him to talk is wonderful.

I think the doctor is way off in saying that he picked the momory up from someone else at 4 months of age. After reading the details of his night terros and what he has shared, I am fully convinced it is his own memory. He said he was with you and "another Nate." I think it's great you are helping your son to nourish his psychic abilities.

Susie


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Hi Rae

Thanks for the update – I’m glad to hear that Ryan is coming along so well.

As to Ryan picking up another persons memory – it is possible, I know many people are able to tune into other people in this way (we all have the natural and inherent ability to do so, it’s just some of us have lost it, or fail to recognise it) and children are very susceptible to just about everything around them, which could probably “cloud” their memories or mix/meld a few together sometimes, without them perceiving it…BUT…in Ryan’s case, and from your own personal statements and maternal intuition…I would say – stick to your own convictions if they feel true to you.

Ryan is certainly a very open and intelligent child – and in time may even validate EVERYTHING for you anyway…LOL…but for now, I would say stick with the gut instinct and let Ryan share his experiences. By questioning him and asking him if he’s sure about certain things…you’re only going to start making him think/feel that you are possibly “doubting” his words and may decide to stop sharing so freely in the future. By what you have shared, it is obvious that Ryan not only has memories of this “past experience”, but also has emotions attached to the memory – it’s reoccurance is also another aspect, and it has also been responsible for his unsettling night terrors…then there’s the shared “quirk” over shoes…all little interconnecting pieces of a much bigger puzzle…a puzzle that Ryan (with your wonderful help and support) is slowly unravelling – so I’d go with Ryan over the Naturopath any day, until Ryan told me otherwise.

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My oldest daughter has had night terrors since she was 4 mos old. As a toddler, she became animated and eventually verbal as well. I could sometimes get her to respond to my voice, but not often. The only thing I could do to help her was to quietly lead her into the bathroom, have her sit on the toilet (which she almost always 'used') and then lead her back to bed. I also found that by singing her favorite christmas carols to her she would also quiet down and go back to sleep.

I realized early on that I had to reach her on a different level and it had to be something she really liked and wouldn't be afraid of. As she got older and better able to understand me, I would put her to sleep using visualization techniques, but keeping to things she loved like christmas lights and decorations.

My daughter is 15 now, and while she no longer sleep walks or has bad dreams (least not remembered) she did begin stuttering around 6 and it stays with her today.

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I think that night terrors are the most frustrating sign of PL trauma. I hope these events have subsided.

Marg

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night terrors

mini2z...first time reading about this thread and it occured to me that maybe it could be about more then past life trauma. My granddaughter will be 3 in june. For many months I have been extremely blessed to be her granny while her parents worked. This little girls Spirit was so strong that before her physical birth she came to me in vision to hug me and kiss me on the cheak. I was in contact with her 3 times during Spirit journeys before I actually looked into her beautiful blue eyes. I would arrive at her home before she was up, the moniter was on and I could hear her when she woke. 4 times out 0f 5 she would lay in her room talking and laughing for at least 15 min. or more before hollering, wanting up. I have also seen her come out of her room arguing and scared, not wanting to go back in. Spirit is the common dimoninator between past, present and future. Sometimes the issues that need delt with are those in her present. Pray over her in her room. Tell the room that you don't care who or what, if it is a negitive (or dark side tormation) they are to leave immediatly, ask Gods blessing on your child and room. Another thing I have found that has effected my granddaughters openness to the things that are scary(her words, not mine)is what they pick up on that we fail to realize. Scary movies, fighting parents or upset home routines. I hope you and your husband find the answers you need to help both you and your daughter. Gods blessings on you all. Cat
 
night terrors

Hi All,

When I was young, and my brother who was younger than I, probably 5-6 years old, began having what is termed as "night terrors". These seem to be lucid nightmares of the most horrific kind. If you ever witnessed anyone having this experience, you would certainly know it. He had these dream repeatedly and it went on for at least months. He would seem to wake up, and would be terrified at something, screaming trying to escape something unseen. When this was going on, my parents could not fully wake him - tho he might be sitting or crouching in bed with eyes open, and he couldn't be comforted for several minutes. I wonder now if it could be some past life rememberance of some terrible experience, maybe even one before some horrible death in the previous life. I know that doctor's don't really know for sure the source of "night terrors", but it's not terribly uncommon in very young children. I don't remember how it all came to stop, but eventually he did stop having these "lucid dreams" and I don't think he remembers much about it as an adult.

Anyone have any theories on night terrors and how it could relate to past life experiences?

toby
 
Hi Toby

Did your brother show or display any other signs in his waking life of having any past life memories or traumatic carry overs???
 
Thanks, that was facinating to read and a bit chilling having seen these nightmares firsthand. You asked interesting questions that made me remember things about my brother that I'd forgotton. There actually were harbingers of these future night terrors when he was a baby. As an infant he cried so much and with such voracity (drove us all nuts), that by the time he was a toddler, he had to have a hernia surgery; problem cause by the pressure of crying at that rate for so long. He was obviously a troubled infant before he could start expressing things verbally that we could understand. Along with these dreams, he had severe excema (sp?) on the shins of both legs which would not respond to treatment. As he went thru school, he was quite troubled, couldn't make friends, couldn't adjust to normal social situations and was constantly the focus of my parents' attention trying to deal with it all. He was so different from me and my sister, that we couldn't believe he could have been raised in the same family. Even as adults, he couldn't be more different than his siblings, and has a severe self-esteem problem that no one has been able to help him with. As a child I fantasized that he must have been adopted, because he displayed such different personality traits than the rest of us

As an adult he's had many problems with drugs and functioning, barely able to hold down a job. I always knew that something... something we were unaware of, had an immense and detrimental effect on him from the beginning. I only wish my parents had had an awareness of such things as past lives back then. Maybe things would have been different for him later.

If nothing else, past life memories may help to explain some anomolies in peoples behavior and relationships in families.

toby
 
Toby, I have read quite a few books that have shown the power of emotional and physical healing through remembering other lives, and being able to process them. Look up past life or reincarnation stories in the library, and read books by therapists. You might find some useful things in there! Also, Carol mentions things of your nature (not to the extreme of your situation) that you family went through. See if any of that will help.
 
Hi Toby

If nothing else, past life memories may help to explain some anomolies in peoples behavior and relationships in families.
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This is certainly a possibility.

I’m curious - is your brother particularly creative??? Some souls tend to find they are able to express themselves and their emotions through creative means – things they may not necessarily be able to voice to others, as they maybe would like. Artwork, poetry and such things as this are often so personal to the individual that maybe they would even hold some clues to you brothers inner workings...they could even be things he may not even necessarily be aware of on a conscious level, but that are bubbling under the surface and maybe causing some of his blocks and problems he has communicating with others and in regards to his esteem issues.

I know it’s a bit of a long shot, but it was a possible path that struck me when reading your post, so I thought I’d throw it out there. If you had examples of such stuff from his childhood as well, he may even be putting forward aspects of past life memory through such means…things that would have been overlooked before.
 
3 year old's night terrors.

Hi there,
I'm not sure if this is in the proper location, but I wasn't certain where to post. I found some information on Chidren's Night Terrors and Nightmares up in the read only section, so wasn't sure where to post.

Long story short, we have a 3 year old daughter who is having night terrors. Never has been a good sleeper from day one, but also a lot of illnesses...ear infections, asthma, etc. that we always blamed the poor sleep on. Went through a "dormant" phase about 6 months ago for a month or two and then the night terrors began again. We've had her checked out by the dr. for every possible explanation and nothing. The terrors are coming now at least 2-3 times a night. We also have a 1 year old (a great sleeper) who is being awakeded by my 3 year old when she screams out at night.

I have been working on developing my meditation and contact of spirit guides in that time and here recently a very developed psychic friend of mine said that her guides are telling her that my daughter is having dealing with past life stuff and that is why the night terrors. I have to be honest that that hunch had come to me when this first all started, but at that time, I wasn't so much a believe in any of this and thought to myself that I was just grasping at straws.

I now fully believe this is what is going on with her. She and I are very "in tune" and often speak the same word at the same time and she also talks constantly about her imaginary friends. She has two...one that she has had since she could talk, pretty much...right around the age of two and another one that she has befriended more recently.

She also has developed some very odd fears seemingly out of the blue lately that are very unfounded for her life experience so far...won't get into those, but I feel it all ties in.

Anyway...I guess my point is that I fully believe with all my heart and soul that she is dealing with past life stuff. My question is how to help her get past this or get onto a place of better rest?

She already listens to music at night as white noise, but I was told to a CD playing harps for soothing.

I thought about putting some sort of lavender scent in her room. She LOVES lavender scented anything and asks to take a lavender bubble bath regularly.

What else can I do for her? I always go to her when she is calling out. I can tell it's about to start because I hear her start out in a very calm, talking tone and it escalates from there. Often times when I arrive to her room (after she has called for me), as soon as I enter she is back to sleep, so I don't really have a chance to soothe or comfort her.

Any direction or information you could point me to would be sooooo appreciated. I hate this for my baby and want to help her move on.

Thank you very much!
Steph
 
Welcome

HI Steph,

I am going to move this thread to the children's past lives section. Your experiences with your daughter are the very subject Carol is interested in.

Have you tired to reach Carol yet? I am sure she would be glad to advise you - since your daughter seems to be -in the depths of some very emotional memories.

I would also suggest putting a blue light in her room. I have found that blue light really helps a child when spirit contact and spiritual things happen. Since she is also very intuitive - this may help.
 
Wonderful! Thank you so very much, Deborah. I just e-mailed her.

We will also try the blue light. :-)

Thanks, again!
Steph
 
You are welcome

I will also e-mail her this link - she gets tons of e-mail -and that way she will see yours for sure. ;)
 
Hi Steph - My son had night terrors when he was small like your daughter, and I have written about it some here on this forum. I'm wondering if I am hearing you right: Your daughter calls for you when she's having a "night terror" and you attempt to comfort her? That doesn't sound like a night terror to me; it sounds like a recurring bad dream. In a night terror, the child is not conscious of his or her true surroundings, even if the eyes are open. A child in a night terror doesn't have the capacity to call for help from someone who is actually present. -- If your daughter is having recurring bad dreams, you have more hope of helping her.

My son graduated from night terrors to frequent bad dreams, and it was almost always the same dream. FINALLY, when he was about 12, I made him talk about it at 3 o'clock in the morning. He told me everything and cried for about 45 minutes. It was definitely a past life in which he had been an abused little girl. After that night, he never had the dream again - and they had become a nightly occurrence. The talk WORKED. I wish you lots of luck because I know how hard it can be. My son's story is under this title: "my son's night panics ended when he confronted recurring dream"
 
HI Mertzie,

What do you mean - If your daughter is having recurring bad dreams, you have more hope of helping her.

You also said "In a night terror, the child is not conscious of his or her true surroundings, even if the eyes are open. A child in a night terror doesn't have the capacity to call for help from someone who is actually present."

Isn't "Mommy or Daddy" a fairly common way for a child to call for help -in our Country? Past or present?

Usually a child isn't aware of their surroundings. I do realize the following is an unusual example of not necessarily so. But my brother Kevin -when he was 5 years old (he is now in his 40's) use to have night terrors. His awareness upon waking and the ranting about "what happened" was extraordinary. He would be yelling "It is all my fault -it is all my fault - I should have been there," and then he gave detailed specifics about where he was and what happened. During the yelling and crying he would point to the ceiling and say -"see -I am up there too". His consciousness was actually bi-locating. He was in two places at once - consciously.
I have often wondered how many children are actually doing this -during the process of remembering.

The interesting thing was - at the time -my mother was having memories of that exact life time with him. It was the 60's - when reincarnation was not in vogue -or written about hardly at all. Scared my mother to death! But the details matched. She never talked about it to us children. I was the oldest -but I do recall -my brothers night terrors.
 
Deborah - That's interesting about your brother. It's also unsual that he remembered anything from his night terrors. No, children in the throes of night terrors, do not usually call for mommy and daddy. They are living something else, far removed, and are more likely to say something like your brother did. All my son could do was scream, run, and look terrified. It was horrible. He never remembered any of them.

Steph is more likely to help her daughter if she is having bad dreams and not night terrors. With dreams, we are much more focused in the here and now. I had to wait until my son grew out of the night terrors and the bad dreams took over.

Acknowledging what happened in the dream is healing. I don't know if Steph's little girl is old enough to totally come to terms with it at 3. My son was ready at 12. I wish her lots of luck and patience - it will pass.
 
Hi Mertzie,

I thank you for your reply.

I actually believe she is indeed having night terrors. I have done a lot of reading and research into the difference because as I believe I mentioned, she has always been a poor sleeper. At times we've been able to connect her health to the night problems (ear infections, etc.) but many times not, which is what prompted a lot of research into nightmares and night terrors.

I would say that once a week it's a nightmare, because at those time, she will typically wake up and either come into our room and get me or will start to cry and call out "Mommy, I'm scared" and I go to her and lay back down with her and soothe her and she will eventually fall back to sleep.

But, most often it's what appears to be night terrors (again, not an expert, just based on my readings). I can tell when it's coming because it's often just that I hear her talking, but in a different way than her waking state, more panicky sounding. Then, she starts in with crying and yelling "no, leave me alone" and things of that nature and then she starts to yell "Mommy, daddy, mommy, daddy" and like I said before, it's odd because as soon as I get into her room and get to her side, she's quieting back down or appears to be asleep like nothing ever happened. When these happen, she never actually acknowledges that I've come in there in a conscious way, it's as if on a subconcious level just my entering the room calmed it all down.

When she has these occur, she does not remember the next day...if I ask what was going on last night or why was she crying, she says "I had a good night night last night, mommy, I didn't cry." But, when she has an obvious nightmare, she will say "That scary man who is like the kid catcher from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang was trying to get me."

I thank you for your suggestions, though and am in the process of reading Carol's books, hopefully as I become more educated, we will learn how we can best help her.

:-)
Steph
 
Oops, something key I meant to point out.

I truly wonder if when she is calling Mommy/Daddy out in her sleep if she's calling for us, as her parents in her life NOW or if the Mommy/Daddy she is yelling has something to do with a past life. I get it's more that, than she is actually calling for us as her parents now, especially since she is not coherent when I go to her.

Thanks!
Steph
 
Wow, you said it before I had to...

...I am wondering the same thing about which mommy and daddy she means. But then, maybe not all night terrors are past life. They could be a (rather horrible) mirror of one's fears at that age in a sub-sub-SUBconscious place. So you could be the mommy and daddy in her night terrors, but she is so DEEPLY asleep, she can't surface. I agree that she appears to know (unconsciously) that she can settle down when you come in.

Best of luck, my dear!!
 
my son stephen is 9 and has mild night fright most EVERY night since he was very little. he mumbles for a few minutes - can't catch his breath - i tell him that everything is ok and he goes back to sleep. i never thought to wake him up and ask him what is wrong. he goes back to sleep so quickly. but i thought he would have outgrown it by now.
 
Your 9-yr-old son may grow out of it, but don't be certain that it will be soon. I know a young man who was still having them at 19. --You can't wake someone up who is having night terrors. My son's terrors turned into dreams, and then I could wake him up. I wish I had a magic pill for you, but you will probably have to wait with patience for a time that's right for him to confront this fears. Good luck!

P.S. You need to talk to his pediatrician about it.
 
Night Terrors

Several months ago my son (then not quite 2.5 years old) heard a train whistle in the distance and made a passing remark that a train hurt him really bad, but he didn't say any more.

Now, four or five months later, he has started having nightmares. About a week ago he woke up screaming, and I mean blood-curdling screams, but he didn't say anything about what his dream was about.

He had another nightmare last night and after he calmed down I asked him if he'd had a scary dream. He told me that he'd had a scary dream about a blue train that had hurt him really bad. I asked him if this happened before he came to be with his current mommy and daddy and he said yes. That was all the information I could get from him at the time.

I have a suspicion that he's reliving something from a past life, possibly even the way he died in his most recent past life. If that's the case, what can I do to help him?

I've read "Children's Past Lives" but it's been a while and I don't recall any specific steps to take. I just tried to acknowledge that his dream was something that really happened but I told him that he was safe now.

Any thoughts?

Thanks!
John
 
It may be past life memory, but from a skeptical point of view, also consider that Thomas the Tank Engine is blue. (Do you get that show where you are?)

He may be asimilating TV shows into his dreams.
 
Originally posted by Rae70
It may be past life memory, but from a skeptical point of view, also consider that Thomas the Tank Engine is blue. (Do you get that show where you are?)

He may be asimilating TV shows into his dreams.
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I think we get it but I don't think he's ever seen it. He likes other shows and I don't recall ever seeing a blue train in them.

Besides, you should hear him scream. I can't imagine Thomas the Tank Engine scaring a kid this bad! :)

You're right in being skeptical, though. Better to look for horse first and zebras later, right?

John
 
Welcome to the forum, Neiby. It sounds as though your son may well be remembering events from a past life. Have you looked at the forum's FAQ section? There is a lot there to help you, including the four signs to look for. Remember to keep a journal of your son's remembrances. We are here if you have any questions.
 
My children (all 4 of them) suffered night terrors. I never did find a reason for them, as they dont seem to be able to communicate what is going on for them that well.

Sometimes, outside noises (in one case here a koala grunting) creating a night terror - in the terror there was something attacking them - a dog I think.

My eldest would have them so severe - that once I called the ambulance because I could not stop her screaming hysterically for 20 minutes.

I find putting them into a warm shower or bath helps heaps.
 
Nightmares

My daughter is 2 1/2 yrs old. Since birth, she has had an odd personality. She greets anyone coming near her with a "NO!", or "Go Away!". It has only been in the last 6 mos that she has really let me hold her and share compassion, or for her to hold me. She wakes up with nightmares often, and screams, "Mommy, Mommy" looking 'through' me, as if I wasn't who she is looking for. She often will cry "I want to go home", even though we are home!?!

Finally, something just dawned on me, maybe she is having memories... I asked her if she had another home, she said yes. I asked her did she have another mommy, she said "She was cutted, she's dead". She proceeded to tell me what her mother looked like as best as a 2 1/2yr old can.

If this a past-life trama is what is causing her nightmares, and her sour disposition, it certainly would make sense. She doesn't like strangers, she is always afraid someone is going to take her away from me, and is fearful of younger men (especially those with facil hair). I susspect that she witnessed her other mommy being stabbed and probably murdered... I don't know for certain, I am afraid to ask if something happened to her as well.

How can I help her find peace and to feel safe? My heart grieves for her to find peace and learn to have friendships. She is a remarkably beautiful child with a tender but very, very protective heart... Any suggestions?

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My heart goes out to you. It must be so hard on you both.

Children that age have trouble comprehending time, past, present and future are confusing. It sounds to me like she is having trouble seperating this life from that life, especially at night when she has the nightmeres.

It sounds like you've already taken the first step by acknowledging her memories. That is so important for both of you.

I would suggest gently letting her know that that life is over and that she is in a new life, with a new body and a new mommy who loves her very much. Invite her to talk about it if she needs to (and she may or may not need to talk it through), but reassure her that it's over and won't happen again. She may need to be reassured often, especially before going to bed, but in time she should heal.
 
Thank you Chelle for your affirmation and compassion. I am just trying right now to treat her as if she has been a tramatized child, rather than just a rebellious child. I think that trying to show her unconditional love will help her to feel safe, and maybe stop some of her hatefulness toward others. I am a very religious person and believe that God is in charge of her, he chose me to be her mother, so I have to have faith in that, that God believes I have the love she needs to heal.

I have always taught her to pray, and that Jesus protects us from evil, through the Holy Spirit we can overcome evil, and have victory and peace, I just want her to have confidence and faith in herself and in me as her mother to protect her. I tell her often that I will never let anything happen to her or me, that I am not going to leave her. If I have to leave her with someone for a short time, I emphasize that I will be back, and now she has started repeating, "Mommy be back", as in it will be OK if Mommy needs to go for a while, because she believes I will be back.

I will try to explain to her that what happened to her other Mommy in a past life was then, and that her new life is now. I have noticed just my being aware that this past life theory is a real possibility, has helped my patience with her, and we have had more peace between us. She has been more open with me, I think her talking about it has helped somehow.

I shared my thoughts and wonders with my mother, and she also agrees that it would explain much of my daughter's 'unexplainable' behavior patterns. My mother is determined to also be more patient and loving with her, and to ensure her that she is safe and loved and that her new Mommy will be safe too.

This seems so far stretched in a way, but I really believe in past lives.... Thanks for your encouragement.
 
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