Which decides? Fate or free will?

[Li-la]

Hi

I have been put in impossible shoes. I am happily married. My husband in this life was my boyfriend,lover from my past life, he was shot to death in the world war 1. At work my husband from my past life (same past life) has showed up, reincarnated. We have a very ridiculous strong chemistry and how this can even be when I am happily married and he is in another relationship with a woman, I don't know. I can't explain it. We have not done something wrong, we are not unfaithful. I am so angry at this chemistry between us!

Again and again and again I have avoided him. But again and again and again we end up together. Now something has happened at work that has forced us together (I can not explain much more or I am afraid with bad luck someone will know my true identity).

I have said no to us by my free will. Still this keep happening to us.

I have by now a long list of all the crazy stuff that has happened that has put us together but can not write of it here because of fear someone will figure out who I am.

Anyone else have been through this type of thing?

Am I to be punished like this? Is it karma? Is it predestined, karma that I am suppose to cheat with my husband (lover in the past life) with him (my husband in that past life) as a super weird karma or destiny lesson??

Best Wishes
Li La

 

[Li-la]

Hi Li La,
if it is only work related either you or him should change work places, if you can't avoid each other at work and from what you have described you can't.

I still think a potential danger is that you are very spiritual being, Li La, and your husband is not, and what he lacks this other man has, or you think he has. It is only my humble opinion that your husband or your own fear of your husband's reaction regarding the spiritual side of you is limiting you from advancing in this area. You seem to have the same frequency and mental connection with your co-worker.

/Jaimie

Hi, Jaimie.

He was suppose to change work after a time but now they placed him with us for good. I have worked where I work now for a very long time. I like it there very much and the people there.

I have been thinking about the crises me and my husband was in that we have been able to come out from. We were close to getting a divorce. Now everything is well again, only this co-worker shows up like a ghost from the past.

Perhaps he is here as an "option" if we had gotten a divorce, but still he was placed here by some mistake.

I can not do anything else but agree with you when my husband's spiritual side is the subject. He is so stubborn. Our entire house could fall down one day of all the extreme ghostly things that happen here but he refuse to change his look of what is really happening.

I think because of his stubbornness is why I remembered his past life name. We were in the hospital. He in the hospital bed. I knew before I came to him to say his name that he was going to study me to hear if I said it the right way. When I "cheated" with him was when my husband had left me and I was heartbroken. I thought when the time would come my husband would divorce me. It was easy for the husbands to do this by law than for wives.

When I think of this some more I remember the most chaotic remembrance I have from that life was when he discovered the letter my lover had written me. I think it could have been the last letter I received from him before he was killed. It had been impossible for me I think to throw it away. The letter and what happened next between us is what made him force me out to the stall and tie me up.

It is strange that I don't hate my co-worker more when I remember all the bad things he did. I don't like it right now that love is stronger than hate.

Thank you for your help.

Best Wishes
Li La

 

[LayingintheSun]

This is pretty interesting that you write this because I have found myself in a similar situation. There is a man in my life who, shall we say, "keeps popping up." We won't talk for ages and will distance ourselves for months, or years, and then some event happens that brings us together again. It's happened enough times that I've wondered if something is trying to work us together. Things keep happening to throw us together even though I am married and I have realized, through time, that we would never actually be functional together. I definitely feel that I knew him at some point before this life, though I do not know to what level I did and he came very close to interfering in my marriage in this life. I also understand how hard that pull is to avoid.