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What do you fear the most?

Josefina

Josefina

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It seems that if one has an unexplained phobia and one remembers a certain episode from his/hers past, then the phobia might vanish. I'd like to hear more about this - have you had fears and have they gone when you have memories? Or do you still have fears after knowing what caused them?

I used to fear fire when I was a child. I couldn't light a match, and when people in my country enjoyd bonfires around Midsummer, I felt they are kind of mad having open fires outside. When I was 19 years old I had my first PL memory as an adult, and realized that a very important person had been burned alive in front of my eyes in my latest life.

Seeing a picture of a fish with sharp teeth made me afraid when I was little, but later on I don't have any fears considering sea creatures. As an adult I found out that I've been eaten by a shark in one of my PLs, but I don't have special fears with them. (I guess it helps to live in a country where there is not a change to see any shark, ha ha.)

I have also seen that once I was strangled by a huge snake, or maby it broke my neck. I think it was python reticulatus, and the life happened around Asia or Amazon. But the funny thing is that I have no fear of snakes what so ever! I've never had, as a child or as an adult.

An idea of suffocating annoyes me a bit. I really hate stuffy rooms, and I have suffocated inside a collapsed cave once.

But mostly I just fear people. And is that really so amazing... Considering that human beings are the most dangerous species on Earth...

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I have an irrational fear of certain colors that reflect sounds (I know, crazy right?) but I haven't found anything that would explain that in a past life. (blues and purples, they are light colors... its very weird because they reflect certain sound pitches. I had a dream when I was little about a sink dripping a steady stream of water and that pitch was coming from the sink, it was quite scary to me.

The one PL I remember I drowned, I have always loved swimming and water!

Sincerely,
VanH.
 
I have an irrational fear of deep water-a leftover of a life affected by the disaster on the Titanic. In 1989, my car was caught in a flash flood and as waves lapped up against the window, I wasn't afraid, I was angry. I felt that after everything I had been through, to die in a flash flood was so anti climatic, and dishonorable.
 
Hi Josefina,

I used to be afraid of crossing busy streets alone, especially as a child -- which I know is past life related. I still don't enjoy it, but it's kind of a necessity in a big city. ;)

I have such an unbelievable fear of planes flying overhead. I don't even realize I am holding my breath until they pass. It's a gut-wrenching reaction each and every time. My heart pounds -- I clench my hands. I know where this fear comes from -- but knowing hasn't changed my physical reaction to hearing a plane. It's not something just anyone would notice -- but my friends who know me well can see it. ;)



Aili :)
 
Moi Josefina,

I would love to let go of my worst phobia that is sharks or other big sea creatures getting me while I'm swimming. I know it's completely irrational and crazy, but I'm dead afraid to swim in deep, dark waters even if it's a lake in Finland. :rolleyes: I'm also afraid of stormy seas, and I have no recollection of where these fears come from. I think whatever triggered the shark phobia has happened to me around the age of 25, because that was when I started to be afraid to swim in lakes or sea in this life. I really hate that phobia, because I used to LOVE to swim and float in a lake in summer nights...

I'm also afraid to be close to big horses, and I'd like to get rid of that, too, as at the same time I think they are the most beautiful creatures. I sort of remember where that came from (being killed accidentally by a scared horse), but I think I haven't been close to a horse after I remembered, so I couldn't say whether remembering helped. Besides it was more like... suddenly knowing intuitively. I didn't really experience it in detail.

Karoliina
 
My biggest fear is drowning. Apparently when I was really young I would refuse to step into pools or the ocean, and if the water so much as touched my feet I'd start screaming to my mom that I was going to drown. This fear has lessened over the years - I can swim, and I enjoy it, as long as I'm in a pool. I'm very uncomfortable in lakes or oceans. But I still get scared that that is how I will die.
My other fear is kind of general, but it's dying young. I wouldn't be surprised if I have died young in other lives (or maybe the last life before this one) because my whole life I've been afraid of it. There is so much I want to do, and, to me, the worst feeling is imagining dying before accomplishing everything I want to.
 
It will sound silly but I fear Medieval Gregorarian chanting music. It gives me strong panic attacks. It comes from an unhappy life where I was forced into a monastery.

I also fear any kind of ape. I know it sounds silly but I cannot get anywhere close to any type of ape even baby ones. It can be embarrasing and inconvinient when you have small children and that's the first thing they want to see at the zoo.:o
 
color red

For me it is red.This color makes me feel terrible.I can not wear anything red or have anything red close to me.It is strange ,but it is like I can not get air in my lungs and my stomac gets like a tight rope around it when I am close to red.I do not have any memories to connect with this.
 
I don't have any actual fears now. I mean I feel nervous, anxious about certain things, but not so to actually call it fear, for example since the incidents with planes I might feel a bit uneasy about an eventual crash or when swimming in the sea (about some sharks). But those are just minor things that pop up but would only rise fear if it was to happen to me.

But as a child there were two things I feared: one was to die, the notion of dying terrified me. But what's funny is that it started out of the blue when I was 7 and lasted a few years. It went away after I learned that death is part of life.

Another one was a dark wolf I saw in dreams very often chasing me. I had no fear of wolves. But this one wolf made me dread going to sleep. Once ,when I was in my parent's car, I was taking a nap. And suddenly this dream came again and I was worryingly looking around searching with my eyes for this dark animal. Then my father drove the car up a hill and I got into a frenzy yelling we shouldn't head that way because something dark was awaiting us. (about my dream being chased by a wolf always started from a mountain. It chased me downhill). Of course there wasn' t anything like that.

Nothing special anyway. Being afraid of death happens once in a while for a child I guess. But this dark wolf thing is still a bit of a riddle for me (I thought I found the meaning of it, but no...).
 
These are just fascinating!

:thumbsup: I must say that fear of Gregorian chants is my favorite so far, and I don't mean to make light of what sounds like a horrible experience, GreenKnight, especially since you were forced and may have even been sexually abused. We now know that monastic life had its dangers for sure. It's just ironic - and interesting! - that most people find that kind of chanting soothing, and it produces panic attacks in you. (I also love the ape fear.:) )

This raises the point of phobias and "irrational fears." There are none. They all make sense; we just don't always see why. Also, I think many fears are symbolic. Yes, you may have had a terrible experience with fire, but the fire also represented something, you know? It was fire, and not water - or some other scary thing...what does the fire represent? We create the dramas out of our own psyches.

My biggest fear is losing my child. I know of past lives where my children have died (plague) or been murdered (French Revolution), and there are probably a whole lot of other times I don't remember (mercifully).I've been told that I had children die on me (one reason at least) so I would see that they did not belong to me - that I did not own and could not control them. But I think my fear comes from losing what is most precious to me, and I don't see how I will ever get over that. :( --I pray every night for my son to be safe as he drives the roads. I am glad now that I wasn't able to have more children. And since 9/11, my whole attitude about having children has changed. If I were young and had it to do again, I wouldn't have children in this world - and yet I think being a parent makes us fully human.

Well, it's my axe to grind.:rolleyes:

Ailish - Your fear of planes makes me think of 9/11. Is that where it came from? For the longest time, I was scared to even hear a plane. I'm over it now...but obviously not over the incident.
 
Hi Mertzie,


Ailish - Your fear of planes makes me think of 9/11. Is that where it came from?
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No -- my fear of planes was something I've had since I was small. It increased dramatically when I was about nine -- and at the same time I was terrified of being bombed. It comes from my lifetime in Italy.



Aili :)
 
Amazing memory!

Ailish - The detail of your memory is fascinating and horrifying - and to find that Deborah was there, too, as your sister - amazing! Thanks for sharing the details.

I'm so sorry the lifetime ended tragically. I can certainly understand your fear of planes and bombs. How do you feel about flying?

Do you think the scars of that lifetime have been healed some by your contact now with Deborah?
 
I'm afraid of drowning (or not being able to breathe). I'm not sure where it comes from but this has been with me since I was small. After I had my son I started having severe panic attacks and was absolutely terrified of dying. Every time I had an attack I just knew that "this is it...I am breathing my last breath" and it was horrifying. I would end up in the hospital several times as a result and they would always say that I was going to be fine I was just having a panic attack. They are much better now but I still have them from time to time. This is the primary reason why I ended up believing in reincarnation. I can't give any details but I am almost positive that this stems from something from a PL. I am still looking for a reputable regressionist to help me with this problem. :(
 
Hi Mertzie,

I can certainly understand your fear of planes and bombs. How do you feel about flying?
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I’ve never liked it, but I think that comes from this lifetime, rather than a past life (the first plane ride I remember taking was when I was three. My parents put me on a plane alone to go live with my grandparents.) I didn’t have an actual fear of flying until September 11th. That passed relatively quickly though as I realized I could not live my life in fear of the “possibly could happens.”

Do you think the scars of that lifetime have been healed some by your contact now with Deborah?
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Well – yes and no. I still get all twisted up inside hearing a plane flying overhead. It’s purely visceral – I cannot control it. I think that’s partly due to the fact that I haven’t remembered the moments prior to the bombing nor the actual bombing itself. My memories of it all happen as things are exploding – as I am dying. I think that makes it a little more terrifying than seeing the entire event. It definitely helps to know where this fear comes from – and why.

I don't believe Italy was the only lifetime I shared with Deborah and I think that I have learned a lot of important lessons from her. ;) My friendship with her now -- has definitely brought me many wonderful things -- including healing and understanding. Knowing that she was with me then as my big sister – and reconnecting now – has been a really wonderful experience. I don't have a sister in my present life, so I’m extremely amused by all of the little ordinary, everyday things that seem to crop up. The joyful moments, by far, outweigh that one last moment of horror. Imo – it was a much worse experience for Valeria being the only one left behind.

Aili :)
 
I'm afraid of dogs although less than when i was a kid, rainbows:( , somtimes water, and i have a fear of crossing the streets on my own etc..and there are more fears i dont understand,but maybe this is all related to past lifes :rolleyes:
I forgot to mention,men with beards also freaked me out as a child...
 
A fear appeared since a few months. I have tried to suppress its existence. A fear of black male around the age of 19 to 32/33. An apprehensive fear, as if they represented a danger to me. And it's only certain black men of this age range. It's not the case for most. I don't understand where this came up all of sudden!

For example last week a friend of mine introduced me to
her boyfriend. As soon as she introduced me as one of her close friends, and started introducing this boy, I just had time to say:"Ugh! I feel nauseous!", running to the bathroom and throwing up. He must have wondered what a weird guy I was.
That never happened as a boy, but why does it now, when I am all grown up, a man in his twenties?!
Or sometimes I just change the pavement or try no to look them in their faces. Really strange behaviour because I'm a very straightforward person most of the time. And those I see in the street, on my way home or wherever are all normal looking so is there no reason to feel that they would do something to me. Bodily harm that is the threat I feel.


In a recent dream, I see myself as a young boy. And that I'm looking up to a teacher ( never saw that man before) who I really adore because he's very funny and always kind to me.
I also see myself laughing in a garden feeling very comfortable in his presence. And the sun is shining on my face. It's warm, maybe summer is near. And I'm laughing again. Doing homework in the garden wearing a light T-shirt. Then I turn to someone and I'm smiling.

But that dream and this fear, I really doubt there is a connection!! Somehow the fear is still there.:butbut:
 
I'm speculating that it is a subconscious "recognition" that may have to be resolved. It is seemingly irrational but there may be something deeper to your current fear. The incident (I'm assuming it included bodily harm) may have occured in a different life.
Perhaps you were in your twenties when it happened. It might just be an age parallel.
 
Thank you for you memories!

:D

Some of them were quite curiouse, some of them were of the same kind of mine. For example I realized that I used to hate the orange colour when I was child, I guess because it's the colour of fire... Yellowish green is also kind of discusting colour, and that may be because I lived an uggly life as a drunken fisherman around an are where there were bushes of that colour. Or that's the colour of the python that strangled me.

Today I thought that it might be more anxious to see people getting harmed that be harmed myself. I'm not quite sure about this, but seeing my loved one been burned definately makes me feel worse much more that many of my own deaths...

Sexual abuse on the other hand might be one of those things that makes one the most untrustfull against other people.
 
Mystery Soul...did I read and understand correctly that you are afraid of rainbows? That's a new one on me. Would you mind sharing any ideas as to where that particular fear comes from?
 
Fear is sort of like the opposite of love.
I know after about 4 months with two of my soulmates, my fears and anxieties naturally dissolved. I had to put in a bit of work as well. :laugh:
It all comes down to changing your vibration. Fear is a negative one.
Just switch it up and you'll have total freedom. :thumbsup:
 
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