Tidbits - fixation on going home to her grandfather's house

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This is greatly delayed. But I wanted to keep track by posting here.

When my daughter was just three she became absolutely fixated with needing to go to her old house. It was bedtime and she was very clear she didn't like our house (rental townhouse) anymore and wanted to go back to her old house where her grandfather was and siblings were. A big house with a garden and she liked it better than our house.

M is an only child. She has no siblings, and before this she didn't really know the word grandfather. She has only one grandfather who she called Papa.


Unfortunately my then-spouse literally removed her from me ignoring my protests and took her downstairs then out on a walk without telling me to "wear her out" so she would "give up talking about this house thing" and I never got any more out of her on it. I will note they eventually came back but my child had been persistent and eventually her former step-parent had to pick her up and carry her home because she kept looking for the house.

My ex decided she was just missing my parents (who lived in a condo nothing like what the child described).

She's now almost four (born June 2018) and there hasn't been much since.

It did remind me of something my grandmother fixated on when very old but none of us could ever figure out what house she was talking about. Including her own siblings.

 

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To add, I do not think M is my grandmother reincarnated, though with some expressions she looks a lot like her.

M was born with two pink birthmarks, both on her head. One at the base of her skull, and one slightly higher. But nothing much has been mentioned about them by her.


Edited to add, part of me wonders if she had a short life before this one. Because what I got is she was a child living with her grandfather and siblings - and desperately wanting to go back there.

She also briefly went through a phase of saying that she was really a boy around the same time. I made no big deal of it figuring it would either resolve on it's own and be a PL thing or it would persist and then it would be something to pay attention to. (Her behaviour/clothing choices have largely been extremely feminine even through this phase).