Should I be concerned?

[Meredith030880]

Hi, I am new to this whole forum thing and the whole idea of past lives in general. My daugher is 4 and is vividly recalling what I believe may be a past life. She gets extremely emotional about it. She tells me that when she was 24 she had a small dog named penny and that the dog died suddenly. This causes her to burst into tears about how she misses this dog. She gives a lot of detail about what the dog looked like. She has told the story many times over and it never changes. I do not think she saw anything like this on tv. She told me that she had no lights or tv when she had penny and she also sometimes gets confused and tells me things like "when I was your mommy and you were little..." she seriously believes she somehow was my mother at some point in time. I am concerned about the emotional aspect of this whole thing as she gets so upset and I don't want to dismiss her experiences but I also don't know how to comfort her with them. Any advice is appreciated.

 

[deborah]

Welcome to the forum Meredith.


Have you had a chance to read the first few threads in this section? The four signs of children's past life memories is a great thread and is fully explained in Carol's books. Are you familiar with Carol's books Return from Heaven or Children's Past lives? Excellent reading. Children's memories are much more common than most people think. Adults have a tendency to brush odd statements aside. Good for you -for thinking outside the box and asking questions.


I will come back tomorrow and give a few more links of reference if you would like.

 

[Blueheart]

My advice would be to keep doing what you are doing. Listen to her. Give her hugs when she is upset. Tell her you are sorry that Penny passed away and give her comfort that someday, someway, she may see Penny again. Just having a Mom that cares will make all the difference in the world.

 

[ChrisR]

Hi Meredith, welcome to the forum


I can understand how upsetting it must be to see your little girl so sad over the loss of her dog, but I don't think there is any great cause for concern. Even though it's a sad thing for her to remember, she doesn't seem to be overly traumatized by it in any way, as can be the case with some children's past life memories.


I think you are already doing a great job by letting her talk about her feelings, and by coming here and asking questions. I think if she were my daughter, I would give her a hug and try to explain to her that those memories were from another lifetime with another family, and that she has a new family now who love her very much, and that maybe Penny also has a new family of her own now. Would you ever consider buying her a dog like the one that she misses so much?


Just give her some time and she will move on eventually. A child's past life memories most often fades from consciousness after a few years.


As for the other thing with her remembering being your mother, well that is quite possible too, and relatively common among children who remember other mums and dads. As Deborah suggested, there are some fine examples in Carol's book: Return From Heaven - Beloved Relatives Reincarnated Within Your Family. I wonder how you feel about her claim? Some parents who have switched roles with their children between lives can sometimes feel a sense of 'authority' from their child which they find difficult to explain, even at such a young age. Do you ever experience anything like this from your daughter at all? Can she sometimes appear to be a bit 'bossy' towards you? : angel

 

[Nightrain]

I don't want to dismiss her experiences but I also don't know how to comfort her with them. Any advice is appreciated.

Hi Meredith, and a very warm welcome to the Forum. Let me first emphasize how eminently qualified Deborah is, and that you can't go wrong by paying close attention to all of her recommendations. A great deal of information has been written in this Forum relating to how parents should best treat cases that are exactly like yours.


However, in a nutshell, nearly all that you will read will indicate simply that both parents should adopt an attitude that one's child is sincerely remembering something that happened. Being interested in what your child has to say can do no harm as long as people don't ask leading questions. Any other concerns you have can be answered by reading as much as you can find in this Forum. Asking questions here can be very rewarding.


Good luck, and please stay in touch.

 

[Meagan]

Hi Meredith. My suggestion would be to keep a journal of everything she says. When my son talked about his past life, I thought I would never forget so I never wrote it down. It's been 6 years and I have forgotten most of what he told me and I now regret it. You would be surprised at how much info you can accumulate and maybe even verify the past life you shared.