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When I watch children and how they react to things, especially in the case of fears, I wonder what past life influences may be behind those reactions.

For example, my daughter is afraid of bugs. All bugs (except butterflies and moths). If one comes near her, she screams and runs inside. She especially can't stand mosquitos and swells horribly around the area if bitten by one. This fear cropped up the summer she she was and has been going strong for several years. If we ask her why or what about bugs scare her, "they just do" is the best answer she can give us. I've often wondered if this fear is past life related.

So my question is how many parents here have wondered about a child's fear and where it comes from?
 
Outgrowing fear

I have and mostly because my daughter was afraid of everything and anything when she was little. Her fears were a legion. To give one small example, she was afraid of all sorts of loud and even slightly loud noises, such as lawn mowers and vacuum cleaners. She was basically all around timid and cautious individual, and not at all adventurous. Since she was so scared of everything, we did not have to worry about her getting in any kind of trouble. Notice that I said she was; she has now outgrown most of her fears.

That brings me to past life connection. This one was easy for me to see. I think that in this respect, she essentially came back as a timid and a fearful person she was. Basically she continued with her fearful nature form last life. Her change is a testament to the fact that we can and we do outgrow our weaknesses given proper support, love and atmosphere. By the way, in her last life, assuming that I know it, her overwhelming emotional characteristic was fear. Fearful nature was a large part of her personality then.
 
Im terrified to have water running on my face,other than myself washing it......If i shower it has to be out of my face, if im swimming (which i cant do) i cant stand for it to be over my chin....i start to have chest pains, i cant breathe and i tense up......

My oldest daughter is afraid of wasps, and swells up huge when one gets her. She is mostly terrified of me or her father leaving her or dying....She is scared to be alone in any room of our home, or anywhere for that matter..

My middle child, is scared of the dark....thats about it for her.....

My youngest is scared of any thing that looks, sounds or walks like a monster.....She will not watch anything that sound or looks scary....That goes for cartoons as well....Scared of bugs, mostly beetles/lady bugs....

My biggest baby yet, My dear hubby, is terrified of the dark...if he cant see it, but can hear it, he runs like the dickens, lol...no joke....if we're together outside and its dark out, and he hears something he leaves me and he's off running......lol...
 
I think even though some fears are related to past lives, not all the current features of our character relate to the past; I think your daughter gave the best answer: "just because they do"--may be sometimes we have to accept things just because...because they are and because we are this way; And what I think about being this way I do not think that my whole personality came from the past --some came from the past but other part is just called individuality and developed because I am --just like your daughter said:” just because"
We develop positive an emotion in this life--like tastes and distastes, likes and dislikes, (like I like ice cream and I do not like ...or afraid of snakes)
Some people just do not like bugs--I do not have a tender spot for them though I do not have strong feelings against them; some people do not like worms; It is different from being terrified of something without the reason; I think your kid might not liked bugs just because;

I was stung by bee one time--actually it was a huge hermit and kids around were making silly theories about how the bee with yellow stripes is a female bee and stings and the hermits, which are bigger and fuzzier --they are completely harmless; And I (silly me!!!) decided to show little kids how harmless they were (from rumors that I took for an absolute truth at that age--I was slightly older than those kids)-- and I cough one in my fist!!! I had to let it out immediately as I was stung and my arm swelled so much that my mom took me to the hospital; The only happy thing that happened that day is that I was excused from school;

So I do not tenderly love hermits --but I am not angry at them either:)

Do not pressure your kid to tell you why--when something is there, it will come out;

:)
Love,
 
"Just because they do..."

Yes, sometimes fears seem so random. I knew a girl, as an older teenager, who was deathly afraid of moths.-- No, not any kind of dangerous insect, but a harmless, fluttering moth. She would scream and run out of the room if one had gotten inside. Now, we KNOW that she was never stung or bitten by a deadly moth in her past lives...yet, in Japanese culture, an appearance by a moth can signify a death in the family.

...? What can I say? Fears are weird. Who knows where they come from?
 
I believe all fears and dislikes come from somewhere. It's just not always easy to understand from where. Sometimes the cause is apparant and sometimes it's not. Sometimes what seems apparant is just the surface of the issue and there is more hidden underneath. Also there is always the possiblity that the object of fear isn't actually what caused the fear , but that the fear is transferred onto the object by association (fearing a lake, because of being chased by a duck, for example). Understanding a fear and when it is most likely to crop up is the first step toward dealing with it. Of course there is always the possibility that they will outgrow it with patience, but they still have to live with it in the meantime, and it's our jobs as parents to help them as best we can.

My daughter will work herself into hysterics (and I mean almost hyperventilating) if a bug lands on her or is in a car with her. It's not a fear that is easy for her to live with (she will almost never go outside in the summer and when she does, she is constantly scared even if she can't actually see bugs she know they are there), but she totally forgets that fear if she gets around horses. I am not saying it's related, but I just learned the other day on the discovery channel that during the plagues of Europe only horses and those people who lived in close proximity to them did not come down with the plagues. It seems the insects that carried the plague do not go around horses or anyone with the smell of horses (I can't remember if it is the horses sweat or the oil in their skin that repells the tics and fleas). Anyways it would explain why my daughter said the other day that "Insects can't get me around horses". Why can't they? You guessed it "They just can't because they don't like horses". It is possible that her love of horses is just stronger than her fear, but then again, maybe not. She was in bed asleep when I watched the program. :)
 
I don't recognize special fears in my children now (exept for spiders), but there is something I would like to share.

When Carol Bowman was in Belgium, I went to her workshops and took my two children (11 and 13 at the time) with me. There were two group regressions, but during the first one, neither of my children was able to see a PL. During the second one, my daughter had memories of a PL where she drowned. She didn't talk about it much, but it seems she first 'experienced' what she saw, and then continued in third person vision. She was rather upset afterwards, and said to me: Do you realise how AWFUL it is to drown???
I don't think it affected her afterwards though, because she still likes swimming.


Eevee
 
So what interesting/odd fears do you all have?

This is just for fun, generated from the thread on a fear of clowns.

I'll go first. I used to be afraid of bugs, but now that I've lived in Arizona and Texas, I had to get over it. Now I can honestly say I'm not afraid of them anymore.

Anyone else want to share? And maybe you can say what ideas you have on why you're afraid?

Kim
 
I've read a couple of older threats about phobias, but since I'm new here, I thought I could answer this.

My worst phobias concern water. I think it's possible I've died in a shipwreck (but no, I don't think I was on Titanic) and this sounds silly, but I'm really afraid of sharks. I don't know if I was ever eaten by one (I don't think it has ever been that common), but maybe for example I was drifting after a shipwreck and had to be afraid of them.

When I was something like 10 and had never really thought reincarnation seriously, I would say to everybody I must have been eaten by a shark. I'm more realistic now, but still sharks' eyes freak me out and I'm afraid of going to water - even to Finnish lakes! This fear of swimming has come only recently and I hate it, since I loved for example floating alone in a lake on warm summer nights after sauna at a summer cottage and just watching the stars. Now I can't really do that anymore or at least I can't relax. Once I was swimming I thought I saw something big and grey underneath me in the water and I totally freaked out and rushed to the pier. And I'm not generally a hystrerical person.

If I forget this stupid fear for sharks (or big fish), I love lakes, but I'm afraid of the sea. Of course I see its beauty, but I think it can be really scary especially when it's dark and stormy. What scares me the most though, is very deep water, I mean when it's totally dark and silent. If I see a tv-programme about diving in deep water I feel really uncomfortable. Same goes for space, but that can't be PL related, I guess..

I had two bad nightmares as a child that I still remember. The other one was about a tsunami of some kind and the other one about hiding from the nazis. I have always thought these could be PL related since I still remember them so clearly, but I'm not sure since I was myself in both of them. And my dad was in both of them as himself too. They just feel like really bad traumas for me even though nothing like that has happened to me in this life.

Karoliina
 
Hi Kim,

Hmm...I'm scared of driving in a car next to a body of water. I'm okay if I'm the one driving, but if I'm the passenger I am a white-knuckled rider until we hit solid land. :tongue: I have always had a fear of crossing busy streets alone, and often wait for someone else to cross before following :rolleyes: I have a huge fear of planes flying overhead. Ever since I was little, when a plane flew over the house I'd hold my breath until it passed safely. Sometimes I'd run and hide, and sometimes I'd run to the window to make sure nothing was going to hit us. I was fairly certain I was going to die. I still hold my breath :D


Ailish
 
:) I have SO many odd fears!

Bugs: Little bugs... Tarantulas? Fine by me, but daddy-long-legs or ants? AAH!

Crumbs: Probably because of my overly neat-freak mother, but I hate crumbs! If someone is making a HUGE mess and not cleaning it up, I can't function properly! I once started crying in a bowling alley because this lady had a 1-inch brownie crumb on the table...

Babies: Not really a fear, but they creep me out a little...

Vomit, mucus (trying not to be gross), ect.: If it comes out of the body, get it away from me. NOW. :)

People: Any age, race, gender, or religon. I hate going near people. I think this is one of my first lives as a person. I just don't fit it...

Things that pop up and go "boo!": I can watch scary movies, no problem, but I was once in a fun house at a fair, and a VERY fake ghost puppet popped up. It scared me so much.

Canada: Not anymore, but I used to (age 4-10, maybe) be terriified of Canada. Probably due to my fear of bigfoot, and my dad telling me it only lived in Canada.
 
One of my biggest, oddest fears is tornados. I live on the West Coast of America where we don't get tornados but I have nightmares about them, being stuck in one and trying to find all the members of my family while keeping an eye on the funnel cloud getting closer and closer to me. I have been through earthquakes and don't find them very scary at all, lol. Another one is sinking on a ship. I also have nightmares about this. I will be on a big boat, like a cruise ship, it will start sinking and I can't find my kids or other family members so I am frantically searching and normally wake myself up from the dream if I start to feel like I will never find them...too scary for me!
I also have a weird fear of police officers! They give me the creeps, the cars, the uniforms, everything, lol, maybe I was a criminal in a past life! I dunno but I sure don't like cops even if I know for the most part they are probably good people. Oh and I'm NOT a criminal in this life so I seriously don't know why I dislike them so!
 
Snakes .... live ones, dead ones, big ones, small ones. Even ones cut in a bunch of little pieces. They all scare me. :eek:
 
Hmm, the last phobia/strange fear thread wasn't that far back, maybe you should look at it, lots of interesting stuff!!!!

I'll post these things agains, oh, there are quite a few!

Wasps, or bees, but mainly wasps. If one is in a room with me, or near me, I freak out, and can't take my eyes off of them. Once my son had a wasp on his shirt when he was maybe 1, and I couldn't believe what I did--I ran up and swatted it off with my HAND! Now, I know motherly love kicks in here, but I can't believe I did that. I guess it was because I was so afraid that it would sting him, and I'd rather it sting me than him. (sorry for rambling!)

Lakes/Oceans at NIGHT. During the day I'm fine, as long as the water is semi-clear. But if the water is dark and I can't see anything or especially if it's dark outside, I WILL NOT go in.

Being the passenger in a car with someone that I'm not used to riding with. I think I died this way once.

Going out to my car by myself at night. (in town I'm fine, but at home going out the car, I'm not.) It freaks me out. I'm afraid someone will run up and get me or something.

Seeing a ghost. Scary Scary thought. Don't know why.

There are more, I'll type more when I have time!
 
the leprechauns!

heights! ooohhhhhh! heights! yuck! no idea why either, just really dont get on well with them!

falling in love with the wrong person, but i think thats a lesson largely learnt from this life! woman scorn and all that business! :laugh:

spiders! they're my worst enemy! its been like a war here recently, they're everywhere! and i just dont know how they keep gettin in the house!!! every move i make, they're a step ahead! eeeeuuuugggghhhhhh!

things not of this world, like ghosts and spirits, i think that comes from the irish ghost stories i'd heard as a kid! banshees and evil leprechauns! :D
 
I'll share my boyfriend's strange phobia: It's being stuck in a narrow tunnel underground head downwards, but the tunnel is not steep. I don't really know how to explain this in English, but he is in a position where he can't move backwards and crawl out of the tunnel. This thought really creeps him out and I find it a bit funny, because it's so unusual and he can't even think about it without shivers. I wonder if he has somehow died like that in a previous life?

Oh and one about me: I wouldn't call this a phobia, but I'm a bit scared of horses. This is quite stupid, because I used to be crazy about horses when I was a child, and I love all animals and I think that horses are the most beautiful creatures. I'm fine with ponies, but I'm scared to go near a big horse or touch it. I wish I weren't. I even think that horses were very important to me in one life in the 18th century, but maybe the fear comes from some other life.

Karoliina
 
Every time I get in an airplane I think I'm gonna die. I've learned how to meditate to control the feeling, but it's there.

For the longest time I was afraid that my husband would die and I'd be left alone. I'd cry myself to sleep when he had to work late. After a few years of this torture, I figured out that he died in our past life together. Once I had that information I didn't worry about him again. Maybe this is the secret to overcoming phobias?

Also, water that you can't see the bottom of. Black lakes. I'm totally fine in the ocean if it's blue and clear, but dark water...I get the chills.
 
Hmmm. I have some pretty odd phobias . . . I'm scared of moths, for instance. I know the current life explanation of that one. I love to swim, but *cannot* jump into deep water because of fear left over from another lifetime.

The only one I really can't explain is my ankle issue. I have this *THING* about someone/something grabbing my ankles. As a child, my fear was so intense that I'd run across my room and take a diving leap into my bed rather than risk walking up to it and having a hand come out from under there. Oh! Horrible! I've gotten better but sometimes I still find myself backing away from the edge of the bed. Last night I got nervous about sitting on the steps to my deck . . . something might have reached up through the steps and gotten my ankles . . . [shudder].

The scariest thing I ever saw on television was an episode of the X-Files, where the baddie is hiding under a car, and reaches out from under there to grab Agent Scully's ankle and jab her in the foot with a hypodermic needle.
:eek: Just thinking about that freaks me out. Actually, I probably shouldn't have started describing it. I'm sitting here right now with my feet tucked firmly under me in the chair . . . .
 
My strangest fear has to be of telephones. I mean, not the actual phone itself, but talking on one. I absolutely hate talking to anyone but my best friend, my parents, and my brother over the phone. Answering the phone at my house is hard enough, but actually calling someone myself is unbearable. Its not that I'm too shy or anything. I'd gladly talk to most anyone face to face, but something about talking over the phone freaks me out. I have no idea where this bizarre fear comes from.

A more mainstream fear for me is public performance, minus acting. I have no inhibitions when I act, because I'm playing a character. But making a speech is terrifying to me. I absolutely love music and have the honor of being my school band's oboe soloist, but unfortunately my fear makes playing by myself almost impossible. My hands shake violently, my heart races- I just become a mess. I'll probably have to give up playing the oboe (my true love :() because I can't stand to play in front of people.
 
Niamh,

That could be it. Somehow I have thought something more perverse, like that he was made to dig that tunnel and go there to die or some other form of torture. I don't know why, maybe I just have a too vivid imagination..

SweetGenevieve,

I hate talking on the phone too! And especially answering and calling. I usually don't answer, but first prepare myself for talking on the phone and then call back. It's just insane! But I have a couple of friends who hate that too and only one of us (not me) is shy otherwise as well. This is why I have a deal with the phone company (don't know this word in English) that I can send 1,000 text messages per month with no extra charge :laugh: . I'm always texting!

Karoliina
 
I have one that isn't mine...but interesting anyway

A friend of mine broke her ankle earlier this year and had to have it in a cast. She said she had no problem with this for the first hour, but after about four hours, she said the cast made her feel claustrophobic. She said it got so she couldn't think of anything else except having that cast off--she couldn't go to sleep, couldn't think of anything else except her leg in that cast. She called the doctor who told her he had one other patient who had had this kind of claustrophobia of only one limb (she normally isn't claustrophobic) and prescribed some kind of sedative. She didn't take the sedative (she had to have the cast on for six weeks and couldn't see taking a sedative for six weeks--she said it wasn't a temporary thing, she wanted the cast OFF) and called him back. The doctor had her come in and removed the cast and let her wear a splint, which she could take off if she had to-and knowing that made her okay with it (although the splint also kind of bothered her). She said she knows this was odd, but if the doctor hadn't taken the cast off, her next step was to go to a hospital and demand that they take it off.

Very strange fear, I think.

Kim
 
Karoliina, sometime ago in a similar "list your phobia" I mentioned that I am claustrophobic. I really didn't know I was until I was on a cave exploring venture with a University spelunking club. We entered a small cave that was to eventually lead into a very large cavern some 75 yards in. The leader warned us of a vertical shaft that dropped 6 feet to another shaft that would eventally take us to the "big one". He failed to mention it was only 3 feet in diameter! I got down in there...head first...pitch black and to say the least I felt the fear!! Any way I got out there with only mild panic...but the memory of it still gives me the holy creeps!! Your boyfriends fear sounded so identical!
Tman
 
Yeah, Tinkerman, that sounds like something he wouldn't even want to hear about. I think I have to tease him a little bit and share your experience.. :D

Karoliina

Ps. My boyfriend is not spiritual in any way and so has never thought about reincarnation. But about this phobia he has several times said that it would be the worst way to die. That's way I have assumed it has really happened.
 
All my life I've had a fear of hights. When I was little I had dreams of falling down from a mountain and getting killed, and when i reached the bottom realising that I was still alive, that I hadn't died after all, which was reasuring.. Still, I've had this fear all my life, I try not to get too close to the edge of a cliff as I find it too overwhelming, and I get a sense of panic. I assume it must be related to a past life.
 
Karoliina said:
I'll share my boyfriend's strange phobia: It's being stuck in a narrow tunnel underground head downwards, but the tunnel is not steep. I don't really know how to explain this in English, but he is in a position where he can't move backwards and crawl out of the tunnel. This thought really creeps him out and I find it a bit funny, because it's so unusual and he can't even think about it without shivers. I wonder if he has somehow died like that in a previous life?
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This seems related to being born. I regularly dream about just this - being stuck in a narrow tunnel. Can't remember which Forum member said this, though it immediately rang true with me - being born is 1,000 times more stressful than dying.

Michal
 
Wow, that's an interesting thought! Yes, it could be that, or then maybe he once died in a childbirth before he was actually born. I thought of this, because he keeps saying, the tunnel thing would be the most horrible way to die.

Karoliina
 
I've always been terrified of abdominal pain. Any kind of pain in my abdomen makes me panic, and become convinced that I will soon die of it.

I don't know why. But I admit that I overreact to it. I just panic,and sometimes the fear is worse than the pain itself.

Once I thought that it could be related to dying of childbirth in a PL, but it's just an impression, and it's not something I'm looking to dig deeper in. I'm just too horrified. :(

Another thing is I hate the thought of getting into a lake, or water that is not flowing.Not pools, which I often get into because of my swimming practice, but lake-water. I don't know why, but I get the impression that something nasty is lurking in there, or that I could drown.

I love the sea, though, where the dangers are greater. Wouldn't get into it at night, though.
 
Yeah, Littlemoon, it really does sound like something Freud would be interested in :laugh: . I really think he has died during the birth, because of the fear of being stuck in that tunnel. But then it would be like he didn't even know he could go forward but thought the only way out is backwards.

Or here's an idea: it could come out of his birth into this life, because it happened through caesarean section. I don't know the details, so I don't know if he was first stuck and they had to operate beacuse of that. I have to ask his parents. Interesting.

Rowan8,

Your panic about abdominal pains could come from dying from a disease or cancer or something in your stomach. But of course it could be the childbirth case too.

It's funny that I'm scared of the sea and big, deep lakes - that's quite the contrary to your fear :) .

Karoliina
 
phobias?

Hello,

I'm a new member and had an interesting thought that came about when I was listening to the radio this morning. The topic was about common things that were never tried before. For example, one of the dj's had never tried a PB&J sandwich, another caller called in and said that she had never had a peice of gum because it was "gross," someone else said they had never riden a bike before because it terrified her.

I understand that more than likely most of these are past-life related, such as the bike or the gum issue. But there are also reasons such as never getting around to it, or being raised in a certain type of environment - for example, if a person had never eaten meat before due to being raised as a vegetarian.

My question is what are some things that you guys have never tried before or scared to try, that is past-life related?
 
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