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[MandaMom3]

Hi

I stumbled across the site today when trying to find out a way to validate my child's claims of her "old mom."

My daughter will be 4 at the end of this month and just recently (within the past few weeks) has started talking about her "old mom." Of course at first this struck me as different but as I was thrown off by this, I told her that I was the only mother that she had. Since telling her this, she has told my nephew, who is of the same age, that her "old mom is dead and my old dad did not take care of me."

My nephew in turn told my sister what my daughter had said who told me two nights ago.

My daughter has also pointed to various places in town with one being one of the oldest cemeteries in town saying "My old mom is buried there" or pointing behind the gym of her school (its an old school that has been there for a while though I am unsure of the exact date of it) saying " 'Tinkerbell' and I used to play there." I had thought that Tinkerbell was the name of an imaginary friend before all of this came started coming out.

I would like to find out a bit more to help me understand what she is saying or maybe if there is some way to validate what she says. I do believe in past lives but am a bit skeptical now that my own child is saying something that can sometimes sound like she is using her imagination.

Any and all suggestions on how to go about understanding this would be appreciated.

Thanks so much!

 

[Nightrain]

I stumbled across the site today when trying to find out a way to validate my child's claims of her "old mom."

Hi MandaMom! Welcome to the Forum!


I can't even speculate at the number of parents and relatives, who have expressed the same experience of children speaking of their "old" Mom and Dad. It is exciting to know that a substantial number of these claims have been verified. So, it's our contention that your daughter is speaking of possible real memories. The "Tinkerbell" reference could be fantasy mixed with real memories; or, it could be the name of a pet that she had in a past life.


What this does point out is, that your situation warrants your close attention to methods of allowing your daughter to freely explore her memories, while observing them safely. There are several threads which offer advice to parents:




How do I talk with my child when she talks about her Past Life?


Children who remember past lives. University of Virginia


Review of Children's Past Lives by Winafred Lucas, PhD.


Chapter One of "Children's Past Lives"


In addition, there are many cases recorded in this section of the Forum, which offer examples like yours, along with helpful advice by Carol Bowman and other members of this Forum.


The Forum may seem overwhelming at first, but that is only because of the vast amount of information that is available. One thing that will help the simplify answers that are specific to your questions is the "Search" pull-down menu item at the top of every page. Simply enter a one or two-word string that fits your questions and choose whether you want entire threads or specific posts, which might answer them.


Ask anything you wish of our members. You'll find everyone more than willing to offer their experience and knowledge.

 

[ChrisR]

Hi MandaMom, welcome to the forum


What you have described with your daughter is far more common than you think, as you'll find if you read through some of the other threads in the Children's section. It's far easier for parents to dismiss such talk from their child as imagination, but when they start accurately describing people, places and events that they've never even seen or been aware of in their short life, then you have to ask yourself, is this really imagination, or something else?


Unless your daughter is affected in a negative way by these memories, for example, nightmares, behavioral disorders or unexplained fears, then there is really nothing to worry about. I think the majority of children remember their past lives, but they each express their memories in different ways, like the games they like to play, dreams, or imaginary friends, or some will even talk directly about it.


If she continues to talk about her 'other mum' or 'other dad', then the best thing that you can do is give her a hug and reassure her that all of that was in the past, and that she's with a new family now who love her very much. Most children will start to forget about their past lives when they get a bit older (maybe around the age of 7) that's when they begin to take more of an interest in what is going on in their present life.


For more information, I can highly recommend Carol's book: Children's Past Lives: How Past Life Memories Affect Your Child which covers the question that you are asking. Also, start a journal, and if your daughter says any more about her past life, write it all down and keep it safe. Don't try to force anything out of her, just let the conversation flow naturally, and go along with what she says as if you already know what she's talking about. If you can make her feel comfortable to talk about it, then you might find that she'll open up a bit more and reveal more information. Ask her simple questions, like what her name was, what games she liked to play, what was it like where she lived etc. Don't be alarmed by anything that she says, just remember that we've all lived past lives, many times over, so your daughter is no exception, she just chooses to talk about hers. As long as you reassure her that she's safe and loved now, then she'll be fine.


Please keep us updated, it's always fascinating to hear about a child's experiences.


Chris

 

[MandaMom3]

Thank you both for the helpful tips and information! I really appreciate it. Keeping a journal of what she says definitely sounds like something I could do and will share if anything else comes of it. She hasnt spoke about it since that last episode a few days ago so hopefully she will soon and I can share.

 

[Truthseeker]

Hello MandaMom3 and welcome.


I really can't add anything. You've already been given some very good suggestions. Please do not hesistate to ask any questions you might have, and feel free to share anything you are comfortable sharing.

 

[Meagan]

Hi Mandamom and welcome!


I just wanted to say that my son did the same thing when he was around 3 yrs old (he is now 9) and I wish I would have known to keep a journal. I thought I would remember what he said and will always regret not writing it down. He looked at me one day and said "you're much nicer than my other Mommy!" and he had several imaginary friends. He also remembered being a fighter pilot. There was much more that was said but back then, there wasn't as much info around as there is today.


You have a great opportunity to gently discover who your daughter was in a past life especially since it appears she lived in the same town...how exciting. If she does give you a name of her other Mom, it would be interesting to go to the cemetery and find her grave. It could be a validation. Good Luck and enjoy it while you can. Please keep us informed.