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kristenfaye

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Hi.I need some opinions on a few things. My husband and I had to enlist the help of fertility doctors to have my daughter. They told us we would probably have at least 3 visits before I became pregnant.Well, it worked the very first time-I had to be artificially inseminated.She was 8lbs.8oz. when born, and I was put into room 8 in the hospital.I've done some research and 8 is the number-in religion-of resurrection or rebirth.Also,when she was three she told me she remembers coming out of my tummy, and daddy "cut the blue rope". She has mentioned "the iceman" coming to bring ice. Also,she has a strange mark she was born with in her left eye-almost like her pupil is leaking.It's at the top of her eye-just a small line,but noticeable enough.I've asked her what other things she remembers and knows, but shes hasn't really said too much more. Any suggestions on how to get her to open up and remember things? Or am I making too much out of unrelated things? She also says God gave me to her, and she picked me.She was an early walker-8mths.and talked very well early on.She seems to have this aura of sweetness and light about her-don't get me wrong-shes like any other 4yr. old, but different in a way I can't put my finger on. Like she's destined for something. She's got this mass of curly hair, and a cherubic face-she turns heads everywhere we go & people make comments about her.And I don't mean to sound like I'm bragging-that's just facts. Any help would be great. Thanks. Sorry so long!!

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Hi, it's very nice to meet you. May I suggest the book "The Purpose of Your Life" by Carol Adrienne for you, and "The Indigo Children" (www.indigochild.com) to help you raise your daughter. Best Wishes Always, -rink.
 
Dear Kristenfaye,
I was intriqued by your description of your daughter. She is a very special girl. First off, believe everything she says to you. Do not judge it or question it, only acknowledge it. She may or may not recall more as she grows older, it really doesn't matter. She is with you now and she chose you for a reason. Sounds like she will do some great things one day.
Stay in touch and let us all know how she is getting along.

-Being Maker
 
Hello rinkrat. I took your advice and went out and bought The Indigo Children. Very informative. My daughter Savannah fits many,many of the characteristics, with the exception of the ADD. Even the physical features described and eating habits-long narrow hands and feet, and not a real big eater. Now I guess I start working on education that is best for her. By the way, as I asked in my first post, is it possible that the 8's having to do with her birth, and the strange mark in her eye have anything to do with a past life? or maybe being Indigo? Her eyes are also a strange color that we can't really describe-dark hazel,grey,sage green and a light brown all mixed together.I have dark brown eyes and her father has light blue. Thanks!
 
Hello being maker. I agree with you on my daughter being special-I just can't put my finger on in what way,or how,yet. I DO believe everything she says. As a matter of fact, I've started a game with her where she tells me a story about anything at all, and I write it down. If nothing else, it's funny to hear what comes out of the mouth of a four year old sometimes. She has a great imagination.She's always seeing shapes of different things in the clouds,and some of the things she sees in the different clouds amaze me! She seems to have a fascination with seeing boats in the clouds especially. She loves the water also. If I could have 10 more like her I would in a minute!!
 
Hi!
I am browsing the sight, out of curiosity because of my 3 year old daughter, and was startled by some of the similarities described in your e-mail. My daughter was meant to be, and I knew prior to the fertility drugs, that she would be conceived. I knew despite two negative pregnancy tests, that I was indeed pregnant, and I new that she was a girl and that Madison had to be her name. Your physical description of Savannah matches Madison's, and she often talks about past events, dead friends and relatives and told me recently that the birth canal is dark and stinky! I've often thought that I am stretching the connections, but am convinced there is more to the story. I am curious to know how Savannah develops.
 
Hi Kay. Can you tell me if Madison has said anything specific pertaining to a past life? Savannah says things every once in awhile, but as I put on a post to purdy yesterday, music seems to bring it out in her. And out of the blue she'll come up with adult words that you don't even really her adults using today. She's very polite, and tho' I'm raising her that way, it just comes natural for her. I,too, knew her name had to be Savannah Jane. We were going to use fertility drugs if we had failed a few times,but I just KNEW the moment I became pregnant. I can't explain it. There were doctors all around, my husband standing there holding my hand, and I just knew. It was like I had an instant connection with her even at that point, and that connection has always been there. But I don't feel this way with my oldest. One of my thoughts were that maybe my oldest and I have had conflict in our past lives that are still being carried out.She's 13, and even when she was younger, we've never been able to see eye to eye, or have been as close as Savannah and I. I love her to death,but there's always conflict between us. I'd say alot of it is normal teenage stuff, but it seems like it's always been there. I'd love to find a regeressionist here in MI and explore this. Let me know how Madison is. Beautiful name,by the way!
 
hi!
both kristen and kay speak of knowing what the name of their child was to be. i'm curious as to *how* you knew. (or do you even know?!)

when i was pregnant, i had a dream that i had a baby girl and named her "sayla". i even spelled it in my dream; which ended up coming in handy. my midwife was reading a book during the end of my pregnancy in which the main character's name was "saylah" (she told me this after the birth and i had given her the name). anyways, i didn't really like the name at first, but hey, what are you going to do? ;-)

well, i am just curious as to your experiences and if anyone else has had some of the same.

in peace,
jen

ps. we're headed out of town for a week so forgive me if i don't reply!
peace.
 
Hi Jen. Well, I had read the name Savannah somewhere right after my oldest was born-14yrs. ago. It just stuck with me. Her father and I divorced, and I never wanted anymore children. About 3 years after I remarried, I just got this "urge" I gess you could call it, out of the blue to have another child. Neither he nor I had wanted anymore-he had a vasectomy in his first marriage and had two children already-but something just came over me. As I posted earlier, we went through alot just to have her, but I was adamant about her name. He wasn't sure at first-wanted something more traditional-but I stuck to my guns. He now agrees that her name fits her perfectly.
Has Sayla ever spoken of past lives, or said or done anything the make you think she's been here before? What made you use a midwife? I had contemplated it, but I guess I "chickened" out! Sayla is very original-I think it's very pretty!
 
I see alot of good replys to your post. My advice is not proffesional, rather just an opinion on a similar expereince. There are a couple ways you can look at this.
1) meaningless child rambling
2) remembering a past life
I had this similar experience a few years back at a restuarant with at that time a 4 year old stepson. Out of nowhere he handed me a crayon he was coloring with and as me to write Harry on it. I complied but ask why Harry your name is Tyler. He looked stone cold at me and said thats who I used to be. As I wrote this name down to his request he handed it back to me and said Lt. Harry Garrison 1944. As his mother paid no attention to it at all. I had the hair on the back of my neck standing up. I wanted it to go away at that point. Within a few seconds he was Tyler again and trust me on this I never brought it up again. A few months later he was taking a bath and I went to check on him and he was crying over a boat in the bath tub that he sunk while playing with it. He said wheres Anna? I said who? He sternly said his wife. Within minutes he was Tyler again.
He has never mentioned any of this as he has grown older (now 8) however there is a border in changing over...however time makes them deal with a new life and forget about the other one...my advice ... let them forget and live their new one.

David
 
Dear Kristinfaye,

Children are a wonderful gift and it is
great that you allow her to express herself
and encourage her to use her imagination. It
reminds us of our own childhood when the
world seemed brand new to us (all over again)
and reminds us what it was like to see it
with youth and vision.

I wouldn't try to force her to have past
life memories. You don't want to have her
make things up just to please you. Children
are big on that sort of thing. If there is
a reason or a need for her to remember, she
will. Until then, it is best to wait until
she asks you about your own spiritual
beliefs.

When you do, keep it simple. From one very
experienced parent, never tell a child more
than they ask to know or can understand. If
you believe in reincarnation and you tell her
so and explain what it means, try not to
over explain. By keeping it simple, you let
her control what and how much she is ready to
hear. Let her do the asking.

If I questioned my child about memories of
past lives, I don't think I could ever be
sure if my child were making up a story just
to please me. I'd always wonder if they were
false.

If I asked my child but cautioned him not to
tell me yes if he didn't, he might worry it
meant I didn't want to hear it if he did. I
would rather he (or she) feels he can come
to me.

This basic method is terrific or any of those
really difficult subjects...like where do babies come from? They ask so early!

You already know how special your daughter
is to you and I am sure, if there is another
child in your future, you will find love
and specialness multiplies. It doesn't
divide.

Kat
 
Hi All,

Actually, I never ask her any direct or specific questions. She comes up with things on her own, such as the time I said "Boy, you're getting to be such a big girl, you're not a baby anymore" and she turned right around and told me that she'd be a baby again, and she'll pick me as her mommy again. When I asked how she'll be little again, she said she'll tell God she wants me as her mommy. So I don't bring anything about past lives or memories up to her first, I just ask her to talk about a comment she's already made. Alot of times she'll tell me I don't know or I don't remember. And it's left at that. She seems to have alot of opinions and "knowledge" on God-more so than she's been taught. But I do realize how special and loving she is, and would in no way make her feel "obligated" to say things just to please me. I don't think she would anyhow-she is very straightforward,doesn't lie and will pretty much tell it like it is, such as telling her older sister she didn't like her new haircut,that it made her look like a boy
(talk about the argument after that one!)
Kristen
 
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