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Rey

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Maybe it's better I leave out the major details, but for years now, I have dedicated my life and my love to a certain someone. This certain someone, was someone from a past life.

I was thinking of posting this when I first joined here, but I was a little worried about doing so.

I can't get over her. I can't love anyone else. I can't and I won't. Every time I think of her, I want to scream out her name (asking her where she could possibly be) and break down into a state of emotional agony and psychological despair. I've tried connecting with her through meditation, although I haven't gotten far. I won't give up on that, though, as I am kinda new to meditation.

Any suggestions on what I should do? I've never been so torn apart by someone.

If you're going to say something like "move on" or "get over her", then don't bother. It's never going to happen.
 
I would like to hear some back story to this! I think it's interesting, how real your love for her is. If you genuinely feel like not giving up, then don't, meditate everyday, perhaps, find ways to understand.


Maybe she's in your current life as someone else?
 
emikua said:
Maybe she's in your current life as someone else?
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I guess I could be open to that possibility, but I highly doubt it. I can't imagine her in a different body.
 
Do you know if she is still alive? Please tell us the rest of the story. It's almost certain you have known her in a past life. Probably more than one.
 
argonne1918 said:
Do you know if she is still alive? Please tell us the rest of the story. It's almost certain you have known her in a past life. Probably more than one.
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More than one? I never even thought of that...That could be possible. The only thing that keeps me going, though, is knowing that I'll be with her in the next life.
 
Hi Rey,


You are not alone. This is a more common experience than you think. The 'soul mate' thing is a real phenomenon, but it doesn't always end 'happily ever after' like in the movies, so be careful what you wish for. Sometimes you need to spend a life or two apart to learn new things and have different experiences or just because that's how things are (nobody really knows why for sure).


But, just because you haven't met yet this life doesn't mean you're not going to either, so try to relax. In my experience when we have strong yearnings and strange feelings like this it is often just before something happens, so keep your eyes open for interesting strangers who pop into your life.


I would be interested in hearing more details about all this when you're ready to share. You will find everyone here is very open minded and interested.
 
Hi Tanguerra, thanks for the reply. I don't know what separated us, or why we got separated. I just hope we'll reunite in the next life.
 
Hi Rey. You are not alone, as Tanguerra said. The yearning for this other soul is real. No one can know for sure why we are separated from our twin soul. Heck there are even some who would argue against "twin souls." But those of us who have and are dealing with the separation know the hurt. Yet the beauty of this love is the power to draw us together in some timeless cosmic dance. The reasons? Hell I think they are well beyond our feeble earthly intellect... but I know for sure that it is teaching me the value and beauty of that love... and that it is beyond this life... timeless


I have three lives in which fragments of this other soul have surfaced. The last of which was 1885 to 1906. You can read it here if you choose. I firmly believe that we travel with and encounter these souls in many lives. As Tanguerra said, be calm and know that there is reason and sanity in it... you're not alone. Meditation is a wonderful process for calming and for searching, you are smart for practicing this. If you want a practical thing to do, in meditation, offer prayers and blessings for this other person.


There are threads on soulmates and twin souls. This one comes to mind, read it and others to see what you can learn. There are books on the topic too, one that come to mind is called "Twin Souls" by a Dr. Patricia Pressman (I hope I got that name right, I'll verify tomorrow.)


Tman
 
Hm, that's interesting. Wasn't really certain others go through this aswell, at least not on this level. Very interesting...


I've been going through the same thing in the past few days. But I've thought about it long and hard,and as much as I want this person back in this life, I don't think I'm ready for it.


I think that if we really want something, it'll happen,but only if we're ready to accept it once it comes and if its arrival has a positive influence and not a distructive one. I have issues in this life that I've realized come from my PL bad experiences.Since I'm not able to get over them, meeting this person I long for would only make things worse.


So I think that if you're really looking for someone and they don't come into your life,it's probably because you're not ready to receive them for some reason. I say you should think about it more. At first,I didn't realize I had issues with it because I missed them so much,I didn't see past the "wanting them back".


I would, however, love to hear more about your story,Rey.
 
Hi Tinkerman, Hi RP1. Thanks for your replies. To those of you who want to hear the rest of the story, I'll have it up later on today.
 
-Flashback-


I tried my best to win her heart, and I think I did it.


Her breathtaking beauty can't be described in words. I see her loving, caring soul.


I came close to death, but she saved my life. She loved me. Life was a dream come true.


WHAT in this Godforsaken world could have possibly happened?! WHY am I living this pathetic, depressing, sorry excuse of a life?! I attempted suicide over her, as living life without her is utterly pointless.


I've been shot down with negativity so many times, I've lost count.


"She's not real", "she's just a fantasy", or "this is all in your imagination"...STFU, seriously!


I'd rather live in a ghetto, rundown apartment room that was once a scene of a massacre you'd find in horror films, than have to live on the same planet as these skeptical, failed abortion scumbags who do nothing but bring you down.


If she's not real, I wouldn't have loved her for 5 years! Idfk why I'm stuck here, living life without her, learning some stupid or pointless life lesson. Whatever this "lesson" is, why can't I "learn it" with her?


If suicide was so bad as everyone says it is, then you'd think "God", or the higher power would do a better job with planning out peoples' lives.


I am sorry about my "complaining", I just had to let it out. That's pretty much the story, as well. It's hard to explain how I really met her. I'm kinda afraid of posting who it is I love, also. My heart and soul can't take much more of this.


I might post the real story, I might not. Even if I do, I'd probably have to quit this forum, never be seen again. Regardless, I will never stop loving her.
 
Rey said:
I am sorry about my "complaining", I just had to let it out. That's pretty much the story, as well. It's hard to explain how I really met her. I'm kinda afraid of posting who it is I love, also. My heart and soul can't take much more of this.
I might post the real story, I might not. Even if I do, I'd probably have to quit this forum, never be seen again. Regardless, I will never stop loving her.
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You might be surprised. People here are very understanding and nonjudgmental, I think.
 
We are a very understanding group here and are not judgemental. The reason for that is simple, we are all searching to make sense of what many think isn't possible, and yet we know what we know.


In my circumstances most of my family doesn't believe even though the information was found to be true in local city directories and other historical documents.


What you will find here is an amazing group of people who will do whatever they can to help you. The great thing is we are from all over the world and each have different strengths and backgrounds. The memories we are tracing are all different as well.


We have become very often cheerleaders for each other. We rejoice each time one discovers yet another piece of the puzzle and try to solve even the most minute clue.


Please feel free to share when you are comfortable. Not only won't we judge you, doing so in this particular forum can get you banned.


That is what I love about it. The only ones who stay are those who are here for the right reasons.


That said, can I ask if you knew them in this lifetime now? Thanks :)


My name is Becky, by the way. Nice to meet you :)
 
Hi Rey.

Rey said:
If she's not real, I wouldn't have loved her for 5 years! Idfk why I'm stuck here, living life without her, learning some stupid or pointless life lesson. Whatever this "lesson" is, why can't I "learn it" with her?
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That would kind of defeat the purpose wouldn't it? :)


I know it's difficult, but getting overworked about it doesn't help. Who knows? Maybe this is a test? Maybe this is a test to see if you can figure out how to live without this other person and once you work that out, like magic, there she'll be? Either way, it's win win, eh?


You might find my story of interest. I have struggled for many years to come to terms with these 'crazy' feelings (that hardly anyone believes, let alone understands or sympathises with, except the good folk of the forum). I think I'm getting there. Some days are better than others though!


My friend X
 
I'm sorry for your pain, Rey. Is this person someone you knew and loved in a past life, and have met in this one? Or do you love the memory of someone from a past life, who you know is on earth, and can't find in your current incarnation? Either way, it doesn't sound strange. Other members have experienced both situations. Have you tried recording your experience in writing? You could pour all the passion you have for her into a novel, and immortalize her in a book that seems like fiction, but actually records your real experiences. We don't need to know her name, and neither does anyone else. Give her a name that describes what you see in her soul. A lot of wonderful books have been written that way, and eased the pain of the author in the process.
 
Tanguerra, loved the story! Awesome that you understood the lesson and try to apply it.It's a hard one,good for you :D


Rey, do you know this person in this life? I'm kinda sensing you want to share with us more information,but you're afraid it might expose you in some way. Even if I'm wrong, let me just tell you from experience that sharing is hard,but it takes courrage to do it,not weakness.


Now that I've gotten that out of the way,5 years is a long time. Did it start suddenly? Are there days when it's easier and days when it's WAY too hard? Or is it something of a constant intensity?


Do you guys think we have some sort of "radar" that starts automatically when this other significant soul is nearby or reaching out to us in some way? Like a signal that's picked up except instead of blinking lights there's the dread and missing someone etc.You know how sometimes these things start for no reason with no influence from the outside.Of course there's the possibility that 'it just does',but maybe it could also be mutual?
 
Hello, Rey! I'm so sorry you feel such desperation. Your story is very similar to my own. I've posted about it before on the forum, so will only talk about it briefly here.


Since I was very small I've felt this incredible sense of loss. Of missing someone, a particular someone. I knew what true love felt like from childhood and now, at 31, I've felt nothing like it in this life! During my early teens I was so hopeful, looking everywhere, hoping to meet this person, but there came a point when I realised they just weren't here. I know people may put this down to looking for The One, something that everyone experiences, but it was more than that.


Anyway, this past life has revealed itself to me piece by piece. And it seems I lost my wartime sweetheart in 1916. I'm never sure if I believe in spirit guides and the like (I'm never sure if I believe in anything!), but I get the impression that he's with me, helping me and that we'll be together again in our next life. We speak sometimes, and even if it's just my imagination, it helps. I don't know why I'm here without him and, much like you, I've struggled at times and wondered what the point was. I'm not sure I believe in lessons, I just think he wasn't ready to come back and I was. If you want to read my overly long explanation of this story, its over here! :)
http://www.reincarnationforum.com/threads/wwi-love-and-loss.3847/


You really aren't alone, although I know that may not help much I've chatted with a few forum members here who've felt the exact same longing. Wishing you all the very best.
 
RP1 said:
Tanguerra, loved the story! Awesome that you understood the lesson and try to apply it.It's a hard one, good for you :D
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Do you guys think we have some sort of "radar" that starts automatically when this other significant soul is nearby or reaching out to us in some way? Like a signal that's picked up except instead of blinking lights there's the dread and missing someone etc. You know how sometimes these things start for no reason with no influence from the outside.Of course there's the possibility that 'it just does',but maybe it could also be mutual?
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Thanks RP1.


I don't know about radars, signals or blinking lights though RP. :)


The soul moves in mysterious ways. I'd use a metaphor of 'ripples in the fabric of the cosmos' being picked up in our dreams (both waking and sleeping) perhaps. We don't really know what dreams are, any more than we really know what 'consciousness' is (we only pretend we do).


Maybe it's just some kind of 'force' that draws people together like magnetism or gravity or ... love.
 
ok,no blinking lights LOL you're probably right, makes even more sense if you think about it in the bigger picture. :D
 
tanguerra said:
:) It's always about love RP.
How's it going Rey? What news?
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You, or anyone on this forum, wouldn't happen to know how to communicate with past life loved ones, would you?
 
Rey said:
You, or anyone on this forum, wouldn't happen to know how to communicate with past life loved ones, would you?
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That's usually easy. You can talk to them in your head. If they are on the other side they will know what you are thinking. If they want to communicate with you their thoughts will suddenly pop into your head. It's happened to me several times. That's why you need to pay attention and write things down.
 
Well, considering that I'm in her world 10 times as much as I'm in this one, I'll think of that as a good thing!
 
I know what your going through rey.


The woman I talked in my thread was my


wife in past life. I was native american


in that life . I met her again in 20's.


Met her again in this life.


It's hard describe what you are feeling


felt like I was having some sort of heart attack


When you recgonize someone you feel


you have known for a very long time.
 
When my first love and I fought with our hands, electricity. I've never felt anything like that again. She denied ever feeling anything for me, so we'll leave it at that.


Currently, this dream woman I'm in love with, going on three years and counting.
 
I know how you feel. There is no way in this life can we be together. I get so sad and all i do is cry daily. since day 1 I met him and its been 3 years. I am so tortured by knowing him . I plead with God to take this feeling away, so difficult to live my life. I wonder why I met him and I just don't understand it. All I know is that this must be karma to be dealt with... Its so **** hard... my heart hurts daily. I don't know how I am ever going to get over this ... we are just very platonic friends but yet the emotions are so powerful.. as if we have been married before. I feel such a lost .
 
This is probably a shallow suggestion. Have you considered a change of scene, where you wouldn't come in contact with him, Ginger? I know that would be painful, too, but you are living in pain already. I have only once fancied myself in love with someone inappropriate, and unattainable. I saw him almost daily. I met my husband, and every feeling, except friendship, for the other person evaporated. I was using my "love" to avoid dealing with the reality of my life. It felt very real at the time, but I was infatuated with a dream, not who the man actually was. He was actually a rather pompous little man, and not very kind, or generous. (or well-read, or open-minded, or funny) I was just very emotionally needy at that point in my life. I don't know if that situation applies to any of the posters, but it is worth considering someone else's folly. It still isn't easy for me to write about it!
 
BriarRose said:
This is probably a shallow suggestion. Have you considered a change of scene, where you wouldn't come in contact with him, Ginger?
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I know this is for Ginger, but thought I'd add to this too. Every time it hurts you to think of him, treat yourself better. Also send positive thoughts his way. That's how I deal with unattainable women now.
 
That's a good suggestion, verbosewriter. We can help each other here by revealing how we deal with our own pain.
 
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