Daughter's violent memories

[Believer]

Hi Everyone,

My daughter is three soon to turn four. She has always had difficulty sleeping as an infant. She fought it with a passion and it has only been in the past year that she actually sleeps through the night. Well today she shared some interesting information with me that might explain her fears.

Out of the blue she told me a story about her grandmother who was shot down by a gunner on her way to pizza shop. She said she loved her grandmother and it made her very sad to lose her. Then she said soon afterwards her grandfather was killed by a car while crossing the street. She explained to me that her grandparents were like her parents and that they raised her. She told me they were very old and that they lived in New Mexico. Several times throughtout the day she told me how much she loved and missed her grandparents. She even cried about it.

Then she told me that she killed herself in that lifetime by shooting herself with her gun. I asked her why she did that and she said that she didn't want to be black anymore. She wanted to be white and that is when she found me. Her heart told her to find me after she died (not before! We are a white family that lives in Maine)

As the day went on she kept describing the story over and over again with the details staying the same which is really strange since she always changes her stories. Plus she kept telling me that this is true not made up and that her grandmother was very mean. She claims her grandmother shot her brother with a gun after he tried to hit her. She said her grandmother and grandfather didn't have guns but that she had a gun hidden in her closet that her grandmother found.

As she started sharing this with me I was shocked to hear such graphic details of killing and violence. We don't watch violent movies and she is limited to watching PBS and the disney channel...very rarely does she see violence accept in Disney movies. We don't have guns in our house or even buy the kids toy guns to play with. She does know what killing is and that guns can kill someone but I don't believe that suicide is something she has ever been exposed to.

I would like to find out more and try to identify if this is real. How should I start? Should I keep asking her questions or let her talk when she wants too? Should I take her to a past life regresser? Any advice would be great.

Thanks,
Candace



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[angel1]

do what you feel comfortable with. When she brings the subject, ask her to describe clothes she wore, the time of year or if she remebers what year. Ask her why she choose not to be black, it could be due to a life in the early 60's and previous to that. Ask her questions about why she felt her heart should find you, maybe you had a past life with her. Don't lead her, but just ask her questions. Try not to sound interegating,just curious. I would use regression as a last result. Usually a child will over come there fear after releasing thier past lives to a parent,sometimes after regression.I'm sure though you can get plenty of info you seek with out regression.

 

[deborah]

Hi Candace,

First - I hope you are keeping a journal. This way you are not relying on your memory, but have written down exactly what she says, when she said it, this will allow you to see if there is a pattern and consistency in her memories.

Second..ask her about her dreams in the morning. Does she remember any dreams and are they sometimes relating to the stories she is telling you now?

Third, encourage her to draw pictures of her 'grandmother' and 'grandfather' and her memories when she is spontaneously talking about them. Ask her about the picture.."whats this?" That way she is telling you what the image is without you leading her.

I am most intrigued by her memory of not wanting to be Black! Not to mention that her heart told her to be White and find you. Names and dates and physical evidence (although it is very exciting to get that kind of confirmation and is always an added plus for you and her) instead, ask her about her FEELINGS, her EMOTIONS - ask her about her THOUGHTS at the time. The names and other physical evidence will surface around what she responds to regarding these three aspects of memory.

I am interested in hearing if this helps you.

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Deborah

Memory is an abstract painting - it does not present things as they are, but rather as they feel. --Eugenia Collier


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[kris0503]

Hi Believer:
Your daughter will make a believer out of everyone who isn't yet. It is most fascinating. I personally think that to have some residual memory of our past lives is a good thing. A lot of issues from the past can be resloved with these memories. Else, they tend to make this life miserable. My daughter had previous life memory at about 2 years and 3 months and she used the memory to resolve her previous life trauma. I was fortunate to have witnessed her catharsis. It also helped me to understand the roots of some of my problelms. I think you should carefully observe all her reactions and emotions every time she recalls her past.

Finally, your daughter's wonderful story illustrates the benefits of having so much diversity in this world. Free will is nothing without the availability of choices we can make. It provides us with ways to experience life in all its diversity so that we learn divers lessons in our journey of growth.

Kris

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